MY BABYS BAD TANTRUMS PLS HELP!!!

Veronica - posted on 01/24/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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PLS HELP I HAVE A 17 MONTH OLD WHO KEEPS THROWING HER SELF ON THE FLOOR !! HITTING HER HEAD ON WALLS WHEN SHE DNT GET HER WAY!!! O AND SHE BITES!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO PLS HELP!!

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September - posted on 01/26/2011

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I don't ignore our son at all, it's just not necessary. Our son responds much better to talking him through the tantrums as opposed to walk away from it. It's what works for me so it's what I do. :)

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2011

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You don't ignore them forever. As soon as my daughter is being civilized we have that exact same conversation. By giving her attention (which is what they are looking for) while she is acting out - it reinforces that behavior as the way to get attention. By talking to her when she is calm, i'm showing her that to get my attention she just has to act like a big girl.

You def. should talk them through it, no reason why you need to do it while they are throwing a fit...they don't need instant gratification, they need to learn the correct way to get your attention.

September - posted on 01/26/2011

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This is just my opinion but the last thing I would do is ignore her tantrums. Most toddlers throw tantrums as a way of communicating their frustration. Have you tried getting down to her level when she's throwing a tantrum and explaining her emotions to her? That seems to work really well for our 2 year old. Once I've explained that I understand he's upset and that it's ok to be upset he's usually done throwing his fit. Our son usually throws fits when he's not getting his way. So I offer other choices that don’t involve whatever it is he's doing that I would not like him to do. Works like a charm every time! Sorry I'm no help when it comes to biting, our son does not bite. Good luck and best wishes!

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2011

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Def. walk away. My daughter throws some pretty good tantrums...though she doesn't bite...but she HATES being ignored. They end fairly quickly after we leave teh room adn when we are leaving I always tell her she can come talk to me when seh's ready to be a big girl.

The biting I would IMMEDIATELY respond to that and remove her from the situation and then walk away from the new location. I also make my daughter apologize directly once the tantrum is over...esp. for anything physical.

Veronica - posted on 01/25/2011

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thankyou i will try that!!! she dnt bite me she bites my son and niece and nephew!!!

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walk away.
if she is still in a crib - put her in the crib.
if you aren't there, she can't bite you.
as for hitting her head, she will stop when it doesn't get her anything. this is normal toddler behavior.
tantrums are fed by an audience. when she figures you aren't paying her any attention she will learn to calm down.
check out the parenting ideas at www.loveandlogic.com

it is awesome stuff. and I have a wonderful 2 year old.

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