my daughter has terrible twos!! PLZ HELP!!

Kristal - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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how do you deal with terrible twos without yelling and feeling stressed all the time? i dont like smacking although sometimes i pull out the 'wooden spoon'. my daughter thinks this is funny! i have a naughty corner which she is not a fan of at all, but once out, its back to her devilish ways... i dont know how much longer i can cope with this!! =(

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Emily - posted on 09/28/2009

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Hi Kristal,



I have two little boys aged two and one , Conor who is my two year old starting acting out a while back pulling his brother around (by the leg) smacking him, taking his toys, sitting on his head, etc etc..i tell you i was at the end of my tether but I started doing time out with him for two mins and he would scream and kick but i was determined to stick with it and after some time it hit home that he cant do what he wants now i use the threat of time out once and most of the time it's enough. We live in Ireland and as it rains A LOT he gets frustrated that he cant play outdoors so much so i've bought crafts and paint etc he also loves to help me with chores (he has his dusting cloth and his toy hoover) so now by keeping him busy with lots and lots of praise he is much happier and has less tantrums which means my other little one plus my two big boys are happier also. Its amazing how much power a toddler can hold until you take the power back...its hard to stick with it but so worth it when things start to turn around. Other carers need to be on board with this as well tho so that the discipline is consistent and he knows what to expect, It took me until my third child to realize that routine and consistency is everything, if things are constantly changing this can throw them off and cause tantrums. Happy parenting :))

Kristal - posted on 09/27/2009

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thankyou so much for helping everyone!

tonya, i will definatly be trying those steps out! hell i'll try anything at the moment! and im looking at the supernanny on youtube as we speak! today is a good day, although any parent knows this could change in a heart beat.. thanx again =)

Patrice - posted on 09/27/2009

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I am going through the same...I don't think there is any solutions other than to wait it out...lol...I sure could use super nanny right now. I've read Tanya Barber's reply and does some of the things she suggested already like sending her to do something constructive and the time outs, it works for awhile but does not stop the behavior. I've also tried threats like you can't go to the park or beach anymore unless you are a good girl...like I said.. works for awhile but does not stop the behaviour...does it automatically stop when she turns 3 next month?...someone please say yes and give me something to look forward too!

Laura - posted on 09/27/2009

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I wish I knew!!! My daughter is 2 as well we have been going through the terrible twos for over a year now! She screams non stop about everything high pitch screaming, she will hit,bit,spit in your face! Its crazy and hard work and at times very very frustrating. I have tried everything and I am now doing supernanny techniques which do not always work unless you use them properly.. I am still having problems with mine though.. Good luck and if you find out what works please please please look me up haha!

Kerry - posted on 09/27/2009

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I have a terrible 2' year going through a stage where she is HARD WORK lol - when she throws a strop i just ignore her... it works! It gets better though once they hit the 3 year old mark they are a lot more calmer I think lol!

Tonya - posted on 09/27/2009

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I know how you feel. My son is two and he has already began going through it. Ive been trying different things and found what works best for him and I. I have found that yelling and spanking doesnt work with him . He then starts acting the way im acting. So i stopped what wasnt working. He tries to give me a hard time when he has to go to time out but i tell him that he must be quiet and keep his hand over his mouth if he is going to cry because time out does not start untill he is quiet. When is being a good boy I will come back to talk to him. It was really hard at first because he would yell and act out in the corner. Patience within the parent is the best solution to the problem. Children feed off the way the disipliner is acting. Make sure you keep your composer. If you are feeling stressed out just step outside and take a minute to cool off. I have been reading a positive parenting book and it has helped me so much with showing me how to deal with it. I have learnt to use the 3 word rule. STOP : Stop the behavior tell them it is not acceptable and they are not to do that REDIRECT: tell your child something to do that is positive "Go get your blocks from you room and build a house" or Go get your favorite book and read it to mommy" REINFORCE: When your child is doing what you wanted her to do wait like 45 secs and tell her how proud you are of her and that she is doing a wonderful job. Praise is much desired from children and they will do what ever they must do to get attention good or bad. Once i started doing the 3 word rule and giving my son praise for positive behavior it has helped me so much and I hope that it will help you. I even posted the rule around my house and it helps as a reminder of what i need to do to make him grow used to a positive environment. When you disipline your child make it short and simple. They can only understand so much and it should not take but like 2 sentences to tell her what see done wrong. Hope this has helped you have a great day keep me posted as to how it goes

Jacque - posted on 09/27/2009

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My son is in the terrible two's as well. He's my third, and let me share with you that if he was the first, there wouldn't be any more! I thought my first two were bad.....I caught him swinging from my valance in my bay window and landing on his feet on the hardwood the other day. My curtain rod is now bent. My friend up the court and I have a system in place now, because he gets away from me so often, I phone her and she blocks him when he runs away so that he can't get off the court. He's brutal...and fast, but cute as a button! I just try to remember that there are people out there worse off then I am!

Elisabeth - posted on 09/27/2009

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I know how you feel! I sat down and watched a few episodes of the Supernanny on Youtube. It made me feel a bit more empowered and relaxed. It's worth a try.

Lisa - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter is two as well and in the terrible twos i know how u feel its so tiring espcially as i have got a five month old as well. I now put her on the naughty step for two mins when i allow her off i make sure she appologies and no wot she has done. i find that this works most of the time. the first time u put her on she will prob try an get off but every time she does put her back on and start the time again. the first time i did it it took 1 hour just for her to sit on it for two mins lol. i really hope this helps you and if you need someone to talk to message me.

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