My daughter is 2 years old. She is an only child. She will not sleep on her own and doesn't want any alone time. Can anyone help?

Shawna - posted on 12/25/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )




I love my daughter to death, but sometimes I would love if she would play by herself. I play with my daughter and hug her when she is upset. I guess I would call myself an over protective mom. Ever since she was born, I would sleep with her. My fault, but know I am trying to get her to sleep in her room and play in her room. She still sleeps with my husband and I. She refuses to play be herself. I love her dearly, but every mom needs that little break. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?


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Carolyn - posted on 12/27/2008




Been there! My daughter, now 11 (almost 12), was much like this. We had to reinforce (over several days) that she slept in her own bed for bed time. Not to say she didn't wander into our room in the middle of the night, but she wasn't allowed to remain. We'd walk her back to bed. Same with our now-2 yr old son. Consistency, even when it seems easier to a sleep-deprived, exhausted mamma to just haul babe into bed for the rest of the night. Oh, and keep night time quiet as possible, limit the time spent talking to your little one when they should be sleeping, discourage middle of the night interraction. It's paid off for us!! Playing...well, you can start by telling her "Mommy's got to finish this...whatever she's doing...but she'll play with you when she's done." Keep your word on this, too, or she won't learn to trust your words. I can now tell my son, "I have to finish these dishes, but I will play with you when I'm done." This is OFTEN followed by "I help!" and my polite refusal to let him at the moment... LOL Does any of this help?? It's not easy, but it does work eventually!!

Tanya Bauer - posted on 12/26/2008




we just switched my little girl to a toddler bed and it's kinda been the same kind of thing. She loves the new bed and doesn't get upset by it, but I've had to either rock her to sleep (that's what I do at night and we've only had the bed a week) or I'll tuck her in and sit on the floor holding her hand until she falls asleep. I know this is just a phase and that's why we did this now instead of closer to March when the new baby comes home. Good Luck...I don't know how you kept her in your bed that long!

Jennifer - posted on 12/26/2008




My daughter never had a problem sleeping by herself until I had brain surgery. Then she was terrified and I couldn't carry her. So rocking her in the living room and carrying her to bed was out. I spent 2-3 months sitting by her bed until she fell asleep. At first I would stay with her until she fell asleep then gradually you get her ready for you to leave before she falls asleep. We talked about it and prepared her for me to leave a little earlier each night. But it took a few months. A night light along with it helped too. A bright one. JoDee is now fine, she only needs a bed time story. I hope this helps and it takes a lot of patience and stamina! Jenn.

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