My daughter is 3 and very defiant, how do I fix her attitude without making her hate me.

Katie - posted on 06/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




She is 3 and very smart for her age, and most times she thinks that that means she doesnt have to listen or do what she is told. I think there is more to her problem then just her age......I NEED HELP!!!


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Melissa - posted on 06/13/2009




This is typical power struggle. She wants to see how far she can push you.
Toddlers also act out when they want special attention.
My daughter is 2 and displays the same behavior.
If you can take an hour and do something outdoors walk, swing, toss a ball.
Fresh air works magic on toddler attitudes. She'll be nice and tuckered out for nap time too. Also, does she know nursery rhymes? Repetition of singing songs for them is soothing, it's also good bonding time with mom too!

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Is there anything that she does regularly that she really loves? Such as watch a certain tv show or play a certain game, or read a special book? If she acts out you could start taking something away from her. For some kids that's the end of the world. For others they could care less. The most important thing is that she knows you're the boss. Even if she "hates" you for it, she and you will be better off in the long run. What's going on now will be nothing compared to when she's 5 or 6 and pulling this stuff.

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We do time outs for our 2 year old when she gets smart with us, alot of the time counting w the threat of time out works. Good luck

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