My daughter is 3 and very defiant, how do I fix her attitude without making her hate me.

Katie - posted on 06/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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She is 3 and very smart for her age, and most times she thinks that that means she doesnt have to listen or do what she is told. I think there is more to her problem then just her age......I NEED HELP!!!

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User - posted on 06/14/2009

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I have a wonderful book for you! It is called "How to Talk to Kids so They'll Listen and Listen so They'll Talk" by Elaine Maslich and Adele Faber. (Not sure the authors spelling is right.) Really good advise and a workbook type format so that you work through what you need to do. You can find it on Amazon. I used these strategies with my children when they were little and had good successes.

Jessica - posted on 06/12/2009

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My daughter is also three and we still have time outs about once a week but she has gotten a lot better the past few months. I agree with Renee children need to be told what they did wrong and then have a time out and then remind them again why they are in time out. End by having them tell you they are sorry and then giving hugs and kisses. My kids LOVE the hugs and kisses part and they are off and playing again, all is forgotten. You HAVE to always follow through if you don't just one time they will see that they got away with something one time. So never give empty threats and follow through. Oh also you may try to give her more choices so she feels like she is in control and hence she will behave better. I promise you she won't hate you I'm sure you are doing great!

Renee - posted on 06/12/2009

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You can dicipline children without making them hate you. I spank my children to snap them out of the moment, then I sit them on my lap and talk about why they got spanked and why wha they did was wrong. We always end with a hug and I tell them "I love you, but you need to obey or you will get in trouble." If they would rather cry on their bed than sit on my lap and talk because they are mad, I let them have a few minutes and then we talk. They ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS get over it and tell me they are sorry and that they love me. I also make sure that I tell them that I forgive them for being rude/diobediant/whatever else... I support corporal punishment because it is so very effective, but emotionally, it is very important that the child is reassured that he/she is loved.

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