my daughter is almost 3 and she does not listen at all. what can i do?


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i agree with Gabrielle to some extent... i have a 3 (nearly 4) year old who has always had a short attention span... i too have had to teach her appropriate/expected responses.... my only difference is that for repercussions, if she is disobeying or not doing as asked, i give her a warning and remind her of her task, then if she continues to disobey, she gets a time out (3 minutes.... though acting up in the time out gets her more time... so sometimes it more like 5 or 7 minutes total) after her timeout, we talk about what she did wrong, and try again. it works, most of the time.

Gabrielle - posted on 09/16/2009




I have to teach my daughter, who just turned 3, what responses I expect from her (Okay Mommy, I'm coming, Yes Mommy, etc) so she knows what she's supposed to do. And insist on answers when I ask her a question or inform her of something important, so I know she heard me. If I'm telling her to do something (Come here, Pick that up, etc) and she doesn't behave, I tell her I'm going to start counting. And I get to 3 (after very slow counting) she gets a spanking (one swat, firm but no red marks) and a talking to. Then we do hugs and talk about what I expect from her.

Karrie - posted on 09/16/2009




Mine is 3 and 1/2 she thinks she is the sht. I cannot get her to do anything either.

Shannon - posted on 09/16/2009




I think listening is something that you will always work on. I agree with getting her to repeat what you've asked her to do. I wanted to add asking her to do one thing at a time so she doesn't get overwhelmed with too many directions. Get down to her and get her to look at you when you tell her to do something the second time or when it's really important. Good luck

Nataley - posted on 09/16/2009




ask your daughter if she has heard u then as her to repeat what u have asked her to do so u know she understands the request and so that there is a flow of communication and then say well now can u do so and so and if she does not listen she will have to be taught consequences for her actions and choices this worked with my boy

Hasibah - posted on 09/15/2009




My daughter will be 3 next month and sometimes she also doesn't listen. Normally because she's bz with something or just to get my extra attention. Usually I will give her time or ask what she need first. It does help me a lot.

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