my daughter is turning 4 later this month.shes great in school but with me she does not listen to me

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Kristina - posted on 01/24/2010

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I have a 4 yr old daughter who is prettymuch the same way. I simply bought a responsibility chart at target that allows me to put up her chores and medals for doin them. Everytime she doesnt listen i take her over to the chart and explain to her why im taking her star down and if she continues to disobey all her stars will go down. Therefore she wont b rewarded at the end of the week for good behavior.

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Leslie - posted on 01/26/2010

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thank you ladies im gonna speak with Mrs.Camen and look to make a chart. i can no longer having my almost 4yr old thinking shes the boss! you guys were great!!

Leslie - posted on 01/26/2010

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lol well the im not your best friend anymore sure is Miss Jenna! The thing is that i spend to much time with her i think because right after school its me and her for the rest of the night so when i just need to take 5 mins its impossible. sometimes i need her to take 5

Maggie - posted on 01/22/2010

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Talk to her teacher and see what they do at school. You might need to change your tactics as far as discipline because what the teacher is doing works and what you are doing doesn't.

Remember the key is being consistent. If you tell her no today you have to stick to that no tomorrow and next week. Just because she whines/begs/cries/throws a tantrum doesn't mean you should give in. If you do she will think she has the power to get what she wants - and essentially she does!

Also, avoid yelling and spanking. It doesn't teach kids how to behave properly it just scares them. Try explaining the rules to your daughter in simple terms and tell her WHY that is a rule. One last thing: praise her when she does listen. Thank her for listening and/or doing what you say. If you do that then she will do it more often. Kids crave approval from us!

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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Post a reply! I so understand! My son is 3 1/2 and dose great in school. I know he knows his numbers and letters and colors but if i try to do any thing to help him improve he acts like he dosen't know and wants me to tell him the answer. I get SOO frustrated! i'm not gonna do it for him but I don't know how to change it either.

Alicia - posted on 01/22/2010

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my daughter who will be 4 in a few weeks do the same thing i havent figure out a solution either maybe like amber said they just want the attention or just bcause we mama they feel they dont have to listen when u figure out he solution let me in on it too

Amber - posted on 01/22/2010

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I have the same problem!! My son who will be 4 in Feb. does not listen to me, and when i yell at him he tells me he hates me and im not his best friend anymore....eventually he gets over it..........to be honest, i think they just want the attention...they get alot in school...and not enough at home, im guilty of it, especially with a 4 month old baby, the older one was use to having me all to himself........and now that im back to work, he has gotten worse.....

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