my daughter who is 3 next month keeps pulling her hair out in temper, what can i do ??

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Caroline - posted on 02/15/2009

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I know its hard but try to ignore it and just move straight on with something else even if she is in tears she maybe trying to seek your attention and if you acknowledge it she is getting your attention. I have worked with people with self injouroius behaviour and it is something they have learnt over years. She is very young and is still trying to find her boundries with you please don't worry about adhd people really worry about it and drs are too quick to diagnose. I dont know where you are from but i am in england and we have health visitors i rely on mine a lot for support and help with my kids when i need it. Just try to ignore it as she may turn it into a regular behaviour if you make a big deal of it. i hope i have helped if you need any more advice just let me know. My son is very active and used to take his tention out on the cat it took me ages to relaise he was doing it more when i tryed to stop him. x

Emma - posted on 02/15/2009

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after she has done it she just looks at her hair and cries, i was worried of things like adhd or something like that, most of the time she does it if she dont get her own way in some thing, when she does it it dont seem to cause her any pain.

Caroline - posted on 02/15/2009

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I hope this may help you. Myself and my partner work with adults with learning disabilities and we put small parts of our work into practise at home. With our 2 children when they show us behaviours that are impossible to intervene with such as hair pulling we ignore the behaviour but not the child, we don't acknowledge what they have done and praise the positives and try to divert them to something else imediatly. I was wondering is there a trigger to it and what is her reaction when she has done it. She may be using it as a release mechnisim. It may be a phase but if your not sure what to do go to your dr and talk to him or her. Don't worry about it we brought our children into this world to challenge us and to make ourselves complete good luck x

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