My daughter will be 3 in August and she does not like to use the potty! She will wake up in the morning dry and I put her on the potty and she might go sometimes! When she does go I give her a reward. I don't know what else to do. People are telling me to get a little strun with her and fuss, but I don't really want to do that. I tell her when she goes in her pull up that she needs to be on the potty, but she says no I don't like it. We read potty books watch potty movies. Any suggestions?? Amy

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Deborah - posted on 02/26/2009

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hi, one of my children didn't like the potty so i bought i seat to go on our toilet, a big girls toilet seat!! it worked a treat no looking back! not all children like the potty they prefer to copy us!!

Kimberly - posted on 02/26/2009

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My daughter was potty trained right around 2. We tried a couple different things, like stickers on a calander when she used the potty or a little treat. Finally I just switched her to underwear and we had a couple of accidents, but then she realized that she did not like being wet. She wet her underwear a couple of times and then seemed to pick right up.

Julie - posted on 02/25/2009

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Quoting Amy:

My daughter will be 3 in August and she does not like to use the potty! She will wake up in the morning dry and I put her on the potty and she might go sometimes! When she does go I give her a reward. I don't know what else to do. People are telling me to get a little strun with her and fuss, but I don't really want to do that. I tell her when she goes in her pull up that she needs to be on the potty, but she says no I don't like it. We read potty books watch potty movies. Any suggestions?? Amy




Hi Amy,



I totally know where you are coming from. I have a 4yr old boy and a 2.5yr old boy. My oldest was alot like your daughter when it showed interest. I just let him run around the house (inside) naked during the day and would bring our potty chair into the family room or where ever he was playing and eventually he started using it. Alot was that he thought he was going to miss something going on.  At that age alot can happen on Barney or Seasame Street in those mear seconds. Good luck !!!! WE also pinned up a ring pop sucker on the wall ( out of reach) so when he did go poop that was his reward staring him in the face!!!!!   Good LUck!!!! Julie

Emily - posted on 02/24/2009

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We are actually attempting to potty train my 27 month old daughter (only because she's interested and we have another one on the way). We did get a doll that potties and poops (when you give it water and food that comes with the doll) and went to panties. We also did the whole excited when she went, was dry, and the sad "oh no, you're wet" thing. A book I read was potty training in 24 hours and it realy helped...

Shelley - posted on 02/24/2009

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I think kids have to choose their own time.  That said, taking away the pullups worked wonders for my two year-old daughter.  We kept the dipes at night, but put a potty chair in her room, and told her that she should let me know when she was ready to try going without a diaper at night.  About a week later, she stopped me from putting on her night dipe, and that was that.  [I did discover that the only nights she had accidents were the nights I failed to whisper in her (sleeping!) ear, "Remember to pee in your potty" when I put her in bed!]   If your daughter feels pressured, she may resist, so just make the potty available, offer big girl undies, and then let it go for a while.  She'll come around when she's ready and feels like it's her decision.

Kathrine - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter was almost 2 1/2 by the time she was trained during the day. She is now 4 and still wears pullups at night. Like most of the other Mom's said; give positive reinforcement, never negative ones. Let her go at her own pace. My doctor always said have you ever seen a kindergartener in diapers? They get it at their own pace. As much as it stinks changing diaper after diaper it will get better. Just try to always think positively. Good luck!

Kathy - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi Amy,

I know girls are much faster than boys, but I have a 3 1/2 yr old boy and he just got trained a month ago. He wanted NOTHING to do with it and I started telling him and making a big deal about it that when this box of diapers were gone he was going to have to go on the potty, and he did. He got very excited because I really hyped it up. He had a few days with pull-ups and then I just took them off him and put on underwear. He had 3 accidents that day and after that he did great! It only took 2 weeks. Good luck, kids are stubborn, when they are ready is when they will do it.



Kathy

Sharryn - posted on 02/24/2009

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I was lucky because my son is in daycare 5 days a week because I work and they started the toilet training for me.   He watched the older kids and just wanted to do it like them.   He is now 2 1/2 and has very few accidents.  Still in pull ups of a night time because he doesn't like to get up to go during the night.  I found with him a rewards chart worked.  I got a piece of cardboard and had him decorate it with me with stickers or what ever and then we stuck this to the tiolet door.  Every time he used the tiolet he got to pick a sticker from the stack that I had and stick it on his chart.  Then I stuck up old postcards around the chart for him to look at while he used the tiolet.  He liked to tell me what was in the postcard pictures.  I found with him that he was more interesed in using the tiolet than a potty but I think this is because that is what he used at daycare.  I brought a seat with step attached and he is fine.  He now trialing wees standing up.  That's a job for dad though.

Jennifer - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son was nearly 3 and a half and completely capable of going potty in the toilet, just not at all interested. We tried the potty chair (which he hated) and settled on a padded seat on top of the actual toilet and a stool. We tried potty treats when he would try to go and the promise of BIG toys when he was totally trained. Didn't work. It really bothered my husband, but I figured when he was ready, he'd go. One morning he announced that he wanted to wear big boy underwear and go pee pee in the potty. So, he did. Two days later he announced that he was going to go poopy in the potty. So he did. No stress, no angst, just did it on his own. I know some moms get hung up on potty training just after their 2nd birthday, but in my son's case, he was scared of trying and failing. He wanted to be sure he could do it perfectly before he did it at all. He's now 4 and doing great. His little brother who's 2, LOVES the potty chair and is in the process of potty training himself. I figure, we stress over so many things, why stress over this?

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Mine did not like to use the potty either. The key was one weekend I put her in underwear. and she has never had an accident since. She goes when she needs to.

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My daughter was not particularly interested in the potty until the week before she turned three. Same issues that you have mentioned. If you have to get her trained right now be sure to base it on positive reinforcement. Like one mom said...if they go a certain amount of time without diapers or pullups or after they have used the potty a few times, they get a reward. IT also works to give them a time frame that isn't a threat/punishment, I told my daughter that once the drawer of pullups was empty that we would need to go and buy some panties. That was when her 3rd birthday was getting close....we only used those last pullups for insurance at night. I think she just wanted to be able to make the decision on her own terms. Kids like to have control of some things. If you can wait though, all kids go eventually, it's not like they'll still be in diapers going to kindergarten. Some kids respond well if they are in a playgroup with others that are using the potty so that might speed up his interest. Good luck and don't worry it's all normal.

Wendy - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi, my son is going to be 3 in June and he has only sat on the potty twice since we put it in the bathroom almost a year ago. I'm not sure if this is your first child or not, but I know when I was trying to potty train my daughter (who is now 5), I was worried that she would never go on the potty. All my friends kids were trained but not mine. It was very stressful. Then, one day, she just decided that she was going to go on the potty and it was smooth sailing from then on.



I know my son is not in that frame of mind yet. I mention the potty to him but he is not interested. I know that sooner or later, he is not going to like the feeling of peeing and pooping in his pull up anymore and the potty will become more intising to him. I think you are doing all you can for the time being. Just keep asking her if she would like to sit on the potty and make a big deal of it when she does. Don't pressure her, or she will regress.



Good luck, and don't worry, you are definetly not alone!! :)

Erin - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son turned 3 last August and we were in a similar situation. He could go on the potty but refused to do so.  Finally, one day i just took out of diapers adn told him no more diapers, you have to go on the potty. he threw a fit for a few minutes but that day we only had a couple of accidents. I put a diaper on him that night, but the next day took him right out of it and put underwear on. he had lots of accidents that day but i just keep changing his clothes and reminding him that he needed to do it in the potty. the next day there were no accidents...and bc he was always dry in the morning, by the end of the week he was out of diapers at night too,( it was more of a security thing for him at night). I had told him at the begining of the week and reminded throughout that if he went all week with no diapers that we would go to the store and he could pick out a toy.  so at the end of the week we did just that.  That worked for us, he only had a few accidents after that week and it was more at night time when we forgot to make him go one last time before bed. :) hope this helps you.

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