My kid keeps back talking me. I don't know how to punish him or get him to stop especially when we are in public.


Renee - posted on 06/12/2009




I like trying to use big words when trying to talk my children out of their attitudes. I tell them the are being obnoxious- they ask what it means, I start explaining it, and they completely forget that they were mad about something. It keep things quiet and it gives me the opportunity to teach the something new.

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2009




First, I'd make sure that no one in the family does that as a normal part of arguing, especially if it is in front of your son. Second, I'd come up with a punishment that will be communicated to your child as soon as he does it, and by all means, stick with that punishment! If it's possible, come up with a punishment that teaches the child that respect is important. It might also be a good idea to stress HOW to argue with someone. Granted, a child might not be able to grasp it all, but I plan to tell my child that yelling, whining, and back talking are the wrong way to argue something. I currently practice all of these things with students I teach, and the back talking gets the strongest consequence because it is similar to sarcasm which is a nasty way of having an argument.

Trisha - posted on 06/12/2009




I agree with the previous reply - but - I believe you must teach right from wrong. With my children - I get their attention and then let them know that what they are doing is not acceptable. My son is old enough to get a warning and then punishment (usually I take his DS priveledge away). With my daughter, she is not old enough, so I am consistently telling her no and why ("you don't talk to mommy that way, it's not nice", etc) and then I redirect her to something else. These usually work with my kids. Hope this helps!

Chand - posted on 06/12/2009




I don't think punishing is a good idea. Kids do whatever they hear or see around them and this is not their fault so you have to be careful what you talk when he is around. Anyway how old is he you didn't write? Do not let your friends or relatives to talk bad phrase with him.

If he is young then try to teach him difference between good and bad phrase.

And if he is old then do not force him, and keep an eye on his followers (Friends)

Wish you Good Luck.


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