my son is 15 months..and he is headbutting..hitting..ect. help!!

Caitlin - posted on 01/16/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




my son wont stop hitting slapping pinching biting..headbutts everything!! at my witsend i dont know how to stop him he does it in public at home..doesnt do it at daycare thank god or w. his father whom shares custody w. me when he feels up to it. when were in public he does it too help!!


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Sarah - posted on 01/26/2009




i think most kids go through something similar to this, my daughter did, my sisters kids did, and several kids i watch, they all seem to grow out of it sooner or later, just keep telling him no, he'll grow out of it he's just learning

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I've gotten several answers from other moms.

1. It will stop shortly after you wean him from the breast.

2. Try teaching baby sign language.  It helps with frustration, in that the baby can try to communicate his wants or needs.

In my experience, with my 14 month old, he's got some tension that he needs to release, so he bites, and HARD.  He much prefers human flesh, though I have found that cheap stress balls, or foam animals where he can bite them all he wants (supervised of course, so he doesn't choke on pieces).

I am actually looking for some solutions on the hitting thing.  My son hits me in the face all the time, and thinks its amusing that I get angry.  So far, all I can do not to get super angry, is remove myself or him from the situation.  I explain why, but I think he's still too young to get it completely...

Keep at it!

Learnmore - posted on 01/26/2009




My son does that too. He is now 18 months believe me it drives me crazy coz I seem not be able to control him, but he only does at home not in public.

Johanna - posted on 01/24/2009




We're going through the same thing right now with our 3 year old. He's pretty awful. I've heard it goes away after a while. But we've taken to removing ourselves from the vicinty immediately and saying we can't play with him when he hits. I've also been saying, "Use your words, not your hands." I ask him how he's feeling. I got him a punching bag to hit as well and redirect his aggression toward it instead of me.

Crystal - posted on 01/24/2009




Well in my instance, and don't chastise me for this, was that I did it right back to him. It got to the point where NOTHING worked and at such a young age nothing really does work, but he thought it was funny and wouldn't stop, when I did it back to him and he realized it hurt, he stopped. it took a few times (less than 5) and I immediately gave him love but explained that it hurt and it was bad. My other problem was he was huge for his age and I'm not the biggest so it REALLY did hurt. But point in case, sometimes it takes doing it back to make them realize its wrong and hurts. Try catching it when you see it about to happen too. Good luck.

Wendy - posted on 01/24/2009




Maybe you should try time outs.... one minute for each year old your child is....

Kate - posted on 01/24/2009




my son is headbutting at the moment aswell, he also hits and kicks I believe he is just going through a phase, my daughter now 3 and half did the same atsimilar age but she did stop. This phase does seem to be worse with my son as he will actually run from one side of the room to the other and straight into the wall. I just try to support him as much as possible and but soft items around him 9 times out of 10 that is enough to stop him. My daughter als does it if she has headache or earache as it diverts the pain, so just keep an eye out esp if he has cold symptoms it doesnt do no harm to get it checked. I believe its just a phase kids go through so as long as they are not really hurting themselves, not to worry but if it continues for too long to seek medical advice.

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