My son is 6yrs old and seems to have a listening problem, how can I fix this?

Cristina - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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He always replies with a "No", always grunts and he aways yelling when he never gets his way.

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Cristina - posted on 02/22/2010

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I understand completly. I am the exact way. Yes my son is an outdoor kid all so. I have taken away his Ds, Wii, Scooter, Bike and he still misbehaves. So I am trying the time out. So far it sort of working, sometimes I think he thinks its a joke. Thanks again and I will always try your ways.

Jessica - posted on 02/22/2010

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Hey there! I have a six year old too that has a short attention span and like to have his way. I found that yelling and arguing doesn't work.....i had to look at how i reacted to his behavior in order to understand his. I realized that I was very short tempered and had to change my behavior in order to get to his. By being more patient and keeping my cool, he realized that no matter what he did he wasn't going to push my buttons. I made it clear that for each action there was going to be an immediate and forseeable reaction/punishment. Instead of yelling, he was given one warning. If a second warning was needed that meant he lost his friends/play time. My son is an outdoor kid and it killed him to sit in the house. Find the thing that he loves the most and make it a reward for him. Keep punishment the same everytime......and most off keep your composure. It has helped us immensely!!!

Theresa - posted on 02/21/2010

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He has learned that he is "allowed" to do this at home. Start by telling him that he's not allowed at home anymore either. Be firm and consistant with follow through. If time out is what you decide, do it EVERYTIME. Don't give in or give up. Be persistant. If he responds no, or grunts it's time out. When the time is up you ask him to do the task agian. No or grunt, time out again. Continue until he does the task with out grunting or backtalking. He may not have the best attitude about doing it at that point, but as long as he doesn't say no or grunt, ignore the rest. The goal is to get him to do the task. He will fight you at first and hard. He believes that he can get away with it. He thinks if he acts that way you'll give up and do it yourself, or you'll give in and let him have his way. Not saying you did it on purpose, but you must have been lacking on follow through at least some of the times for him to believe he can gat away with it. Once he learns that you're not going to allow it (like at school), he'll start listening better. He'll still test you from time to time, that's his job. Just put him back in the time out to remind him that you still mean business. Good luck.

Cristina - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hi Amanda, thanks for the reply. I have tried both of these and he still doesn't listen.
I say to him "Why are you good at Prep but not at home" and replies "I'm not allowed to do that at school". This is what I'm up against.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

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put him a corner for six mins for every min of his age until he listens he will soon get very bored looking at nothing... and you could also start taking toys away until he starts to be good or listen..

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