my son is almost 14 months and still not walking. he has had a few bad spills tring and it seems that he is scared to walk. i try to help him walk by holding his hands and he just bends his legs. the only way he will walk is when he is hold onto the table, sofa, my legs,etc. should i be worried? how can i help him?

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Nicole - posted on 11/13/2008

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kids r different they reach milestones at different ages and no u shouldn`t be worried

don`t push him either my nephew walked at 17mths and don`t compare him to other people`s kids before u know it u won`t be able to keep up with him u`l miss the time he wasn`t walking!

Stephanie - posted on 11/13/2008

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My doughter was the same way. She is now about 14 1/2 months. She just started to walk in the past week or 2. She is very afraid of falling and would only walk along the furniture as well. One day she just felt she had her balance and started to walk with out holding on to anything. There was nothing we could do to help her. She does everything on her on time when she feels she is ready. My 2 year old was the complete oppisite. He was walking at 8 months. He would start walking before he had his balance and then fall into the corner of the walls or furniture. He spent several months with bruises on his head from falling into everything. So I am glad that I did not have to go through that with my daughter.

Zoe - posted on 11/13/2008

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your little boy will walk when hes ready too. it sounds like he can walk as hes walking around furniture, its just him building up the confidence to let go. My son wouldnt walk if i held his hands either hed do exactly what yours does and buckles his legs to sit down, then one day he started doing 2 ior 3 steps to get from one sofa to the other, now you cant stop him walking.

Erin - posted on 11/12/2008

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My little boy did not walk until he was 14 months. Make sure to keep him barefoot as much as possible. I know it it getting cold but it will really help him get a feel for it. I compared my little boy to all of my friends because it is hard not to but they all happened to be girls. I truly think boys are just slower than girls. He will walk. He is showing all of the signs. Holding on to things and walking is the last phase before they venture out on their own. Oh and if he falls and takes a bad spill, try not to make a huge deal over it. That may help too.

Mindy - posted on 11/11/2008

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I think your son is fine. But if he still does not make progress in the next 3-4 months and you have concerns, you can always call your county Early Intervention program to have him evaluated. The worst that can happen is that he may not be eligible for services but the PT who does the evaluation can at least give you some tips on things to do with him to encourage his gross motor development. And of course discussing this with your pediatrician is always important! Just so you know, the typical range for walking to begin is 9.5-15 months so 14 is still within the average range.

Nathalie - posted on 11/11/2008

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Both my kids walked at 15 1/2 mos. My daughter actually didn't crawl until she was 12 1/2 mos, and then suddenly everything happened in stages really quickly. My son crawled only when he started walking, but started scooting on his bum, one leg and one hand (had never seen a baby do that, it was a riot) when he was 10 mos. So, your son is on track. Like everyone says, he'll do it at his own pace. You can try making him walk one step between you and your husband (both of you sitting on the floor), letting him go for a fraction of a second. Praise his efforts. Do it a few times, then increase the distance between you and your husband, increasing the number of steps. This will increase your son's confidence, knowing that if he lets go, he has somewhere to go (your arms!). Good luck!

Nancy - posted on 11/11/2008

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Hi! Just a little suggestion, let your son walk barefeet as much as possible. It gives a better feel and grip with the floor for balance and all. If he can cruise holding on to furniture he is ready to walk on his own real soon. He just need to find confidence to let go. You can also try to give him a box to push from furniture to furniture. It worked wonder with my twins! Now I wish they didnt start walking so soon...hihi With more mobility, get ready to babyproof your home more !

Kelly - posted on 11/11/2008

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It sounds like he is just apprehensive, and so he has to work through that. Not much you can really do except encourage him. My friend's daughter is 14 mo and not even sitting. THAT is something to worry about. (And now she is going to therapy.) Since yours is cruising, there's probably nothing to worry about.

Ashley - posted on 11/11/2008

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If he is going around the furniture, he is ok. He will walk when he's ready. My friend's son didn't walk until 16 months, the doctor was setting a date for them to see a specialist - then he just started walking. Don't give him things he wants, make him go get them, and don't let your other kids cater to him either if you have them. He will be up and walking soon. Talk to the doc at his next appointment, but don't worry too much.

Valerie - posted on 11/11/2008

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It is perfectly normal for a 14 month old to not walk yet. However, if you want to encourage him to move on his own, I do have one tip. Sometimes I think they are ready to move before they know it. Some kids just need a boost of confidence. If you give him an object to hold onto (like a toy or a cup), he might be tricked into believing he has some support, which will give him that confidence to take a step. My son would stand on his own when I handed him a cup. It was as if he thought he was holding onto something as stable as the sofa. Of course you should be near him to spot him...

Jill - posted on 11/11/2008

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I don't really have anything new to say, other than to let you know my daughters timeline so you don't feel alone. She did not crawl until 13 months, and didn't walk until 16 months. I understand your concern. I started having some myself around 14 months. All I can say is enjoy this time. Once they start walking, you start running 24/7! :)

Maryn - posted on 11/10/2008

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My little guy didn't crawl until 11 months and then didn't walk, on his own, until 16 1/2 months! I was so tired of being his "walker". He used my finger, and wouldn't let go, until the very last minute before he walked. It is so frustrating, for us moms, to see our kids not being "like" other kids who walk at 10 months, etc.!!!! Hang in there. I'm finding more and more people who have kids who walk later than 12 months. I think we just hear about all the babies who walk at 10 months!

My little guy has a personality that keeps him safe. He is very careful. He won't do something unless he knows he will be successful. And he won't stop trying until he is. He won't even go off a single stair without sitting down, turning backwards, and crawling off , then getting back up! At least he is consistent! Good luck with the walking phase.

Julie - posted on 11/10/2008

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It's so nice to see other moms with kids who didn't walk until closer to when my son started. It seemed like everyone I knew had a child that practically was born walking. My son didn't start walking until he was almost 17 months old and literally within one week of starting to walk, he was running. It sounds like your son is just starting to creep, they'll do that before they get ready to walk. One day, he'll just want to get something that he can't creep to and without realizing it, he'll take his first steps.

So, to answer your questions: 1. don't be worried. 2. Just keep encouraging him and don't get mad/disappointed/etc if he just creeps or crawls, he'll take his steps when he's ready.

User - posted on 11/10/2008

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My son didn't walk until 16 months and he hasn't stopped running since, lol, don't panic it will happen and trust me I understand your concern as I am wondering when Kohen will decide to say more than three words... Alll in time...

Suzanne - posted on 11/10/2008

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No need to worry! My son was 15 months before he walked. My pediatrician told me (and I did research online) the longer they crawl, the better it is for their cognitive development. Crawling actually can effect their reading skills later in life. Sounds crazy I know. Look it up, I did and it made me feel better!!

Jane - posted on 11/10/2008

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My little boy is one tomorrow and only rolls everywhere, he never bends his legs to kneel up and reach for things he just trys to pull himself up using his arms only but he can get himself off the sofa and stand there but will not move his feet to get anywhere. Do you think i should be worried?

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My son didn't walk without cruising the furniture until he was 16 months old. However, he hopped on his knees like a kangaroo. I'm not positive how this got started, but it got him across the floor without furniture. Then he suddenly decided that walking and running were better and faster. If your son is up on his feet walking with the help of furniture or other supports, then he'll be letting go soon enough. He just has to be ready on his own terms. Relax and enjoy the time of not having to run after him in the grocery store.

Michelle - posted on 11/10/2008

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Absolutely not! My son didn't walk until he was 16 months. If i tried to hold his hands and make him walk, he would lift up his feet and throw a fit. All of his needs were being met so he didnt feel the need to get up and do it on his own. What i did was continue to try holding his hands and making him walk. From there i would only hold one hand while we walked. After that i used a ruler or a teddy bear, something we both could hold on to but it wasn't my arm he was yanking around and at that point he took off. Since he was a late walker, he never had that awkward fumbling stage either. He just took off running. My pediatrician said if they don't walk by 18 months then its time to worry but if he's at least pulling himself up then he's fine. Keep being patient, he'll walk when he's ready (even though that's the most annoying thing to hear)

Suzanne - posted on 11/10/2008

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I was in your shoes just a few short months ago. My daughter didn't walk until she was 19 months old. I went to see many doctors and they all said she was fine but it still kept me up at night. Do what you are doing and he will do it when he is ready. I felt like when I finally didn't focus on it so much is when it happened. Good luck, I so remember the fustration.

Liz - posted on 11/06/2008

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Jennifer, my son is also 14 months old and is still not walking. He is doing the exact same thing. He will take a few steps then fall. While I think this is something we can always encourage, or provide opportunities for, I don't think it is something we can force. I believe they walk when they are good and ready, and my pediatrician said as long as they feel they can get somewhere faster by crawling, they will do that. Additionally, I have heard that boys develop a bit slower than girls. But, as always, I am sure a call to the pediatrician will put any fears to rest. Good luck!

Jami - posted on 11/06/2008

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Don't worry my son didn't start walking until he was 16 months old. He did the same thing, walked around everything but, he wouldn't let go. Everyone told me he will walk when he is ready.They were right but, worried mommy, I actually had an appointment made for him to be evaluated to make sure he was alright. And believe it or not he started walking the day of the appt. so I canceled and he never stopped!! He is now running and doing fine! So hang in there I'm sure he is fine.

Kate - posted on 11/06/2008

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Don't dismay. He will walk when he's ready. Boys usually take longer than girls to accomplish this anyway. It's true what Elizabeth says - I think a lot of babies just find it easier to crawl and don't desire to walk. You pediatrician would have told you if there appeared to be something going on that would inhibit his walking. What you are talking about (moving from the table to the sofa and your legs) is called "cruising" and it is the last thing they do before they start to walk. I would put money on his first steps in the next month or two. You can help him by doing exactly what you said you were doing - holding his hands and encouraging him to walk. For now, I would forego any shoes (unless you're outside of course!) as this makes the learning process more difficult. If he must wear shoes inside, try to get ones that are fabric soled and not rubber or hard soled.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/06/2008

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My niece didn't walk until she was around 16 months old. She was satisfied getting around by crawling, and cruising up until that point. She is now a healthy 4 year old with no developmental delays. But, if you're worried it wouldn't hurt to talk to the pediatrician.

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