MY SON IS SCARED TO DEATH OF A TRAIN!!!

Heather - posted on 10/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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OK SO MY 2 1/2 YEAR OLD IS SCARED TO DEATH OF A TRAIN HE SAYS EVERY TIME HE IS IN HIS ROOM THAT THE TRAIN IS GONNA GET HIM I KEEP TRYING TO REASSURE HIM THAT THE TRAIN ISN'T GONNA GET HIM..ANY IDEAS ON WHAT ELSE I CAN DO TO FIX THIS..ALSO HE IS SCARED OF THE VACUUM CLEANER TO HE RUNS AND CRY'S WHEN I USE IT..

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My son definitely has his times when he gets scared of something (monsters, shadows at night). I always reassure him and then I use some poetic license. I tell him that all his animals watch out for him while he sleeps, they are his friends and there to protect him. Then I also tell him that I do not allow monsters (or whatever is scaring him) in the house at all and if I even see one I yell at it to go away. I tell him he can do the same. Sounds silly but I think it helps.

Also, at bedtime I often tell him stories that I make up. Well sometimes they are very clearly stories about boys fighting off monsters, standing up to what he's afraid of and being safe. Friends helping each other with monsters/scary stuff. That really helps. Often after the story he will ask me a few questions and I can see he is working it all out iin his head.

Get creative and be practical (vaccuum when he isn't around if you can, move the train etc). Just keep experimenting until you find something that works.

Good luck, I hope he is feeling better about all this soon.

Amanda - posted on 10/21/2010

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I definitely take the train out of his room. Try putting it somewhere pretty benign in the house where he can see it, but doesn't have to get close to it. Or you could just put it away all together and try taking it out again at a later time. Has he expressed why he thinks the train is going to get him? Kids develope weird fears all the time. And though it may seem irrational to us, they are completely valid for the child. So forcing an issue on them will just make it worse.
As for the vacuum, try setting up a really fun activity that you both can do in one room and leave the vacuum running in another room as far from you guys as possible. Let him know you are going to do this. TEll him you guys aren't going to go anywhere near the vacuum unless he wants to. Maybe play some music while you are doing your fun activity as well. SLowly move the vacuum to a closer location as he becomes used to it.
When you do need to vacuum, try doing it when he isn't in the house or set up a designated "safe zone" for him. Try getting him his own vacuum as well so he can feel like he is helping out. My son has a toy one that he pushes around while I vacuum,

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