my son picked up swearing from the tv an now i cannot stop himk from doing it.. ive tried everything

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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ie tried taking away hois toys, time outs, lemon in his mouth, ignoring him.. im out of ideas please help

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Natalie - posted on 02/24/2010

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My son had a similar problem. My mother-in-law said that every child needs an out word. A word they can replace a curse word with. So I gave my son a new word to say everytime he said a curse word. It worked! It also thoroughly entertained him. There is nothing as funny as a toddle saying "oh pig snot" when he drops his toy!

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THERESA - posted on 02/25/2010

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HOT SAUCE!!! sounds mean but just a lil on your finger to give them a lil taste and tell him why your doing it..IT WORKED FOR MY 2 YR old..

Sondra - posted on 02/25/2010

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My friend is a director of a preschool and they ignore the behavior and praise the children who use proper language in front of the kids who swear/use potty language, and she says works great for the school. Obviously you have explained that these are not proper words to use so try again to not acknowledge the behavior. Good luck!!

Shannon - posted on 02/24/2010

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try ignoring it and not making a big deal out, they always look for a reaction

Ariana - posted on 02/24/2010

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My wee girl ( 2 yrs ) started saying F@#k sake , when she said it we'd say no FAR OUT now she says Far out , took a couple of weeks but finding another word for her to use helped us

Amanda - posted on 02/23/2010

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I catch my 19 month old using certain words from time to time. If you don't make a deal out of it they don't find it so facinating. I just try to restrict my husband & I watching shows that have language.

Theresa - posted on 02/22/2010

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First, you're not a bad mom, kids hear things. TV, neighbor, grandparent, etc. You can't shield them from it forever. Kids know how to push buttons and play with remotes. Sometimes they turn the TV on at the wrong time and hear the wrong thing.



I don't know how old your son is, but my son first swore when he was 3. I can't remember which word it was. I was shocked so probably said it much more firm than I needed to , but I said I NEVER wanted to hear that word from him again. I then asked where he had heard it. He said grandma, my MIL. I told him that there are ppl who say things that are not nice, but that doesn't make it OK. I asked if he had ever heard Mommy or Daddy say it. No. I said then he should not be saying it either. I told him if he were ever unsure he should ask me, but if Mommy and Daddy don't say he shouldn't either. It worked. He's now 14 (in 3 weeks) and I've never heard him swear again. I'm not nieve enough to think he never does at his age, but he knows beter than to do it around me. That only works of course if you and daddy don't use those words. But I do agree with other moms, don't make too big of deal or he will only find the fun in gatting a rise from you. Explain 1 time that if he uses those words he will have a time out. If he says it simply say "bad word, time out." nothing else. Put him in the time out. When the time is up he can go play again.

Tiffany - posted on 02/22/2010

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thankyou to those of you with some advice instead of trying to make me sound like i am a bad parent for something my child heard from the tv when he was playing with the foxtel remote.. thankyou and i shall try your helpful hints

Jackie - posted on 02/22/2010

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Ya first of all no toddler should be watching anything with swearing in it on TV. But the more you react the more he will say it...he's getting a reaction which is what he wants. I also think continuing the time out are fine...but you need to say in an almost emotionless (but still firm) tone that word is not nice and unacceptable, so now you get a time out...put him in time out and ignore him. Don't get all excitable and worked up...you don't want him to know its a big deal, only that its not allowed end of discussion.

K.C. - posted on 02/21/2010

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My advice would be not to let your child watch anything that's not age appropriate and this includes the Simpsons. Playschool has no swearing in it so what was he watching?? Now that the damge is done you have to explain that it's a naughty word. However if Mummy and Daddy or their friends/family swear around him then there probably isn't much hope....

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When I was little and learned a cuss word my mom told me "Oh My" was a bad word.. so I went around saying Oh My all the time instead of another word thinking it was a bad word. And everytime I would say "Oh My" my mom would raise her voice and tell me not to say that, of course that would make me say it even more lol. So that was her way of making me not cuss, and it worked... until I got older, went to school and learned tons of other words.

Brandi - posted on 02/21/2010

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You are making too big a deal out of it. He is getting a reaction (even a negative one) and he will continue to do what gets a reaction (swearing). Words are VERY powerful and kids learn this very early and will continue to use words that will elicit a response. you need to ignore the words when they are used and later at a less emotionally charged time refer back to the event and tell him that those words are not nice. I also will simply tell my child after the word i said "that's not a nice word, we don't use that word in this house" my daughter actually will correct me if I use a word like "stupid" or something not polite or nice by accident. She doesn't understand context (that stupid shoelace is in a knot is ok, but She's stupid is not ok) she only knows that the word stupid is unacceptable. The more "punishment' you give him, the more likely he is to say the word. Simply correct him mildly and tell him it's not ok. over time, he will come to realize that those words aren't really that much fun and he'll stop. Also, you probably need to more closely monitor what he watches on tv.

Billie - posted on 02/21/2010

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I like Jenifer's idea of explaining it's not nice etc. I'd keep doing the time outs too though, just explain once that every time he says a bad word he'll go to time out for however long and then each consecutive time don't say anything and just put him in time out and ignore him until the time's up and have him apologize before he gets out. Maybe if you stay consistent despite the frustration it'll start to sink in that he shouldn't say the words.

Jenifer - posted on 02/21/2010

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I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. My son (who is now 10) used to swear all the time when he was like 3, I just told him something like "that's not a nice word. it hurts peoples feelings when you say it to them.". Luckily he is a sensitive kid & still doesn't swear (around mommy and daddy anyways lol). I think by making it a big deal (lemon, time outs....) its kind of like highlighting the word and making him think it's more interesting.

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