My son will not sit in time out at home or daycare. Any ideas?

Heather - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son will run from time out at daycare and at home. At home I spank him but they do not have that option at daycare. He is starting to become a bully.

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Heather - posted on 04/09/2010

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I put my son in a high chair time out he is 26 months old. I plan to move him into a regular time out at about age 3.
I also use this method sometimes at bedtime if after 3 tries of keeping him in bed doesn't work. It seems after a few minutes of just sitting he tires and will go to sleep. I am going to start moving back his bedtime little by little to see if I can figure out how to get him to lay down without so much of a fuss.
I've been reading Super Nanny books and she doesn't say anything about using time outs on toddlers.

Katie - posted on 12/15/2009

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how old is he? what people need to realize is that time out does not work for all children. They should try putting him on their lap or redirecting the behavior. Having the child show a nice touch to the other children and then letting them go on their merry way. This makes a lot of teachers mad but, not every problem can be fixed with a timeout. Boys by nature are a little more aggressive. Always remember children learn from play. Set up play situations at home for more one on one teaching!

Sarah - posted on 12/14/2009

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The nursery that my son used to go to had a form of time out that meant that the child that had been naughty sat on a staff members knee able to watch what the other children were doing but not able to join in. This worked brilliant with our son.

Jodi-Rae - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Elisha:

I have a 2 year old daughter and I run a daycare. For time outs they stand in the corner, and it took awhile to get them all to understand what time outs are. I would have to stand right behind them at first and keep placing them back in the corner and firmly say "no, you are in a time out". It is a little time consuming and frustrating but eventually they all learned what it meant to be in time out, and I don't really have any problems with it anymore. Good luck :)



I have gone this route as well and it works pretty good. I take care of a little girl 17 months and my son who just turned 15 months and she understands time out now but my son is still a work in progress (however he has only gone there twice now). The time out corner is near a window so they can look outside. Good Luck.

Brandy - posted on 12/12/2009

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My daughter tries that every once in a while. I use the big lounge chair for time-outs and I sit across from her on the coffee table. (She's only 19 months so if I leave so will she) She usually sits there good but sometimes she tries to get up and leave and I just stretch out my one hand and hold her there. I still ignore her and don't look at her while she is having the time-out but I just have my one hand on her lap making sure she can't get down. When she decides she's going to try to escape time-outs, I usually only have to do this a couple times before she starts sitting there on her own again. If that doesn't work for you, try a playpen.

Elisha - posted on 12/12/2009

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I have a 2 year old daughter and I run a daycare. For time outs they stand in the corner, and it took awhile to get them all to understand what time outs are. I would have to stand right behind them at first and keep placing them back in the corner and firmly say "no, you are in a time out". It is a little time consuming and frustrating but eventually they all learned what it meant to be in time out, and I don't really have any problems with it anymore. Good luck :)

Jamie - posted on 12/12/2009

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P.S. I don't suggest this if you still use the high chair for feeding. You don't want it to become a negative experience at feeding time.

Jamie - posted on 12/12/2009

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I use the high chair for my two year old. She is grown out of it, so when she is behaving horribly I put her in it and turn it towards the wall. She hates it but it works well. I normally give her 2 minute intervals.

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My daughter would do the same thing, i started using the corner instead of a seat or cushion. That way she cant see whats going on around her. Also, when she came out i would immediately put her back without a word. If you are consistent with it, eventually he will learn that he has to stay in time out. But it wont happen over night =) Hope this helps!

Casper - posted on 12/12/2009

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Hi, I have a son around the same age.. and I dont think he could sit still if he tried.. I dont do timeout as I think he is too young for that reason that he is just so active.. I just use the old NO and a smack on the hand if he wont listen and it seems to work for my son.. They are all different tho so if timeout is what ur sticking with then maybe try using a porta cot in the corner of the lounge for time out.. I say this as u dont want to send him to his room or his bed as he will then associate bed with timeout and not want to go.. I dont know but I hope this helps.

Diane - posted on 12/12/2009

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i use to put my children in a place where they couldnt see the tv . if they got up I would just keep sitting them back down and told them they had so many minutes and if they got up before the time was up they were sat back down and the time started over after a while they sat the time of the punishment.usually 1 minute for every year alive

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