my sons being clingy. HELP!

Debbie - posted on 10/23/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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hi my son is nearly a year old and he is really clingy at the moment he follows me round like my shadow and is always wanting for me to pick him up. he will still go to other people. i thought it was sweet at first but now its starting to get quite annoying. please help if u can.

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Kerri - posted on 10/28/2008

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Our doctor said this would worsen, 15-18 months being the worst period. I have found that my son stops crying when I'm out of earshot. If you know you're leaving him in good hands, don't feel bad about his crying; it's pure manipulation.

Nicole - posted on 10/23/2008

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Just remember that in a few months he'll be old enough to understand that when you leave, you will return. So the distraction method becomes detrimental to toddlers. He'll learn to not trust you because he doesn't know when you are leaving. You have to get down eye to eye with him and explain Mommy has to ....... but I will be back soon.

Nicole - posted on 10/23/2008

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My daughter, who's now 18 mos was the same way. It started when she was about 10 mos old. She'd bawl and scream if I wasn't within sight, none the less if I wasn't holding her! By the time her 1st b-day rolled around she'd pretty much outgrown it. I've read that this is a normal time for babies to go thru a clingy period. Starting to walk and gain independence, but still wanna know that Mommy is at beck and call. I know it's frustrating and draining, but trust me - savor this time because before you know it your son will be running away from you and thinking it's hilarious anytime you want a hug or kiss. You'll be the clingy one and say to yourself "remember when..."

Winnie - posted on 10/23/2008

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Hi Debbie, it is hard to have him clingy. It breaks your heart when they want you, and you walk away. I have noticed that when I need to leave, the art of distraction usually helps. So if you are leaving him with someone, try and see if that person can distract him with a fun toy, and while he is with her, try and slip out. I know they cry for awhile, but in my experiece with kiddos, it is just a matter of time before they are up and playing. A good babysitter will help him overcome his fears by keeping him distracted and trying to make him feel safe. He will learn to trust other ppl. Hope this helps

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