My toddler is a bully...help!

Kerry - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 2 1/2 yo is at a real bully stage. When he sees another child the same height or smaller he pushes or hits them. I'm assuming he's asserting his authority on someone he thinks he can because he has an older brother but I'm not sure how to stop it. At the moment when he does this (which is usually at a park or his older brothers school...sooo embarrasing!) I take him aside and sit him down and tell him "No pushing, You need to play nicely" I them go to the victim and make sure they are ok.
Any tips or different ways to handle it? He is so quick, even though I stay close to him in public places he still does it :(

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Jayde - posted on 11/27/2010

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I have a daughter who was a victim of a child who threw bark at her. His mum came straight over told him it was not the right thing to do & forced him to come over, look my daughter in the face a say sorry. I have to say it made me as the mother feel happy that the child said sorry even though he probably didnt fully understand what sorry meant. she then gave him a 5 min time out.

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Anita - posted on 11/27/2010

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Hi Kerry, I don't have any tips but just wanted to say that my son is the same. However he is not as bad anymore and I think he is slowly growing out of it. I think you are doing the right thing by telling him it's wrong and then making sure the other child isn't hurt. I sometimes give my son a tap on the bum if he is hitting the other child, it doesn't hurt and I find it sinks through to him more than if I just spoke to him. I know they say smacking promotes violence in a child but every child is different and somehow my son responds more to a smack than anything else. My daughter on the other hand I only have to look at her with a cross face and she cries!

The bottom line is most children go through this stage and I am sure it will pass (hopefully lol) but if it gets worse then I would seek more information on ways to handle it.Good luck :)

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