My toddler is posesed

Ashley - posted on 01/20/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter just turned 2 in December and ever since then she has been like a whole different child. She is always an angel at home but anytime I try to go anywhere public she throws an awful screaming fit. She is very strong for her age and I can barely hold her. She will not stay in one place and the minute I try to correct her she starts her tantrum and wont stop. She doesnt ever calm down on her own so I am forced to leave where ever I may be.. I dont know what to do


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Kristin - posted on 01/29/2011




Ashley I am feeling your pain. My daughter turned 2 in January and it is like a switch just went off! She goes from 0-60 in no time flat and the screaming fits are terrible. I have not had too bad of trouble with in store fits. I try to limit my shopping with her to short well prepared trips, no grocery shopping. Ours are the temper tantrums when she does not get what she wants, or has to go to bed (pounds on the doors, no kidding I had to install pillows on her door). I just keep telling myself this is phase and that being tough but loving is the best. I try to be consistent in my discipline, time outs, taking things away and try to avoid spanking as much as possible. We are very hard on her, she once had a time out for 45 minutes. I on't let her out of time out until she stops to crying or at least calms down. Then she gets up and says "I'm sorry mommy" or "I'm sorry daddy" and we hug and say that we love her and why we put her in time out. I hope if we stay consistent with this it will pay off. I want you to let you know you are not alone! We will get through this...somehow!

Carly - posted on 01/29/2011




I feel your pain-your daughter is going through the "terrible two's" and they are terrible!! My advice is get your duaghter involved in the shopping ie holdng a basket for you ,point to vegetables and thigns she may know and ask her what is that? this way your involving your daughter ,and she's learing at the same time!! Also get your daughter to put the grocerie items (which she can hold) in the basket/trolley for you so seh's involved in the shopping!! I am doing this with my nearly 3yo who also was a horror and is just starting to come out of that stage!! good Luck with it and remember it's normal and seh'll grow out of it!!

with the tantrums I think dont' hold her or try and prevent them let her have her tantrum and tell her eye to eye this is not acceptable and i am walking away now go to walk away of course don't leave her.... rememeber this is a stage and will pass we've all been there and know how hard it is exspecially when ppl stare (something i hate) ...j


Laura - posted on 01/24/2011




one don't leave. If you have a pram put her in it if she is naughty. Tell her that she can only walk or be out of the pram if she behaves or she goes back in the pram. Don't worry about what other people are saying or that they are staring and ignore her tantrum she will learn that it is not getting her anywhere and with time and persistance she will eventually stop.

Toyin - posted on 01/22/2011




you have to be firm with and her and make sure you dont loose control.make her know you are the boss and make it known to her you wont yield to her tantrums.its the stage of being in control for her.

Delani - posted on 01/21/2011




just a thought.. is she your first child?? does she normally have your undivided attention?? do you spend allot of time at home?? if you answer most of these questions yes she maybe feeling overwhelmed with the larger bigger world... I agree with Amy get her involved , make a simple list it helps them feel more in control of these new experiences. list going to bank 1st, going grocery store 2nd, going home 3rd. would not do more than 3 things at a time until she understands the system. also may want to re-enforce when you say 1st,2nd, 3rd hold up your fingers to reinforce this it will help her learn how to count ans well as give her something to do. when your at the grocery store let her help you pick, like show her 2 different types of apple sauce regular and peach ask her what one she wants. it will reinforce to her that you are including her and showing her that you care, it gives her something to focus on other than all these people that she does not have a clue who they are but they keep looking at her and make her feel anxious. Around this age they suddenly start to see things around them they are not so focused on what is right in front of them. My oldesr child was and is the same way she needs to know where we are going she is ok with change but likes to be in control... and she is 18. my 3rd born is also like this but she is deaf so she needs the extra security that the list bring to her she is 6. Hope this helps. drop me a line if you need any other suggestions?? On a side note my oldest is actually my step-daughter she had allot of changes in her young life that make her crave for control. hope this helps...

Amy - posted on 01/20/2011




I feel your pain girl LOL. Bit seriously, I had the same problem with my little girl a few years ago. Just a trip to the grocery store was a disaster. Once she was big enough to help me, I would tell her one or two items on our list and have her help me find them. I admit, it didn't alway work, but it did help to distract her for a few minutes. As she has gotten older, I have slowly increased the amount of things I ask her to help with. We make little songs and rhymes about what we need to do/buy. When we are just running errands I tell her where we are going, and in what order we will do everything. Then as we finish one thing, I ask her to remind me where we need to go next. This way she feels like she is helping and she is a part of the activities instead of just a spectator. I know with a 2 year old it's hard to know what they are thinking all the time but just remember to keep your cool. If she sees that she is getting you frustrated, she will just keep pushing your buttons. I hope this helps, good luck!

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