My toddler will not sleep or listen!!

Sarah - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son will be 3 this May and for some reason the past couple months, he refuses to nap- no matter how i approach it. And he's up a lot during the night not wanting to sleep. I'm not sure what else to try. And during the day, he just refuses to listen no matter how I approach that either. He can never make up his mind on what he wants, he constantly wants me which makes me not be able to get anything else done. And he has got some horrible temper tantrums!! He will get so mad over the stupidest stuff. Is anyone else going through this?? I have no clue what to do.. I am so lost and frustrated, and TIRED! Please help me.

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Niele - posted on 01/30/2010

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Hi Sarah! i feel ur pain... i too have a almost 3yr old (only 2weeks til then OMG) and my son Fletcher is a tough one too.... He was a reflux baby and difficult and willful from the start. I was having similar issues on and off for ages, we've always had issues with sleep and Ive found that the biggest thing is disipline! I know it seems unrelated but its exactly what we had to do. Once your son takes you seriously and realises that YOU are the boss and there are consequences for his behaviour you'l have a different child on your hands. After my 2nd son was born, Fletch kicked off massivly! and all directed at me. It was awfull. and i had to take control, so we tried the "Supernanny" Naughty mat technique and WOW wot a difference! everything just fell into place, u have to be very strick with ur self to stick to the rules and not waver at all but my son is now such a pleasure! we still use it 7months on, on average about 2-3times a week but usually just the threat of it is enough. and public places are fun again!



with the sleep thing, its a similar thing, keep placing him back into his bed and dont talk to him, he will soon get it. once he respects u.



i know its cheesy but watch a few episodes of the Supernanny, the techniques have really worked for us! and remember to reward the good bahaviour, Fletch got it very quick that its more fun to behave and get praised, and cuddles and sometimes a surprise ( a cookie for eating dinner, or being really well behaved and helping with shopping) and give him jobs to do, Fletch loves to help round the house, doing washing and loading the dishwasher, stuff like that, i even give him a cloth when i dust or clean the shower he he he (no chemicals) he loves it and wen we're done, we go do something fun! Good luck! i hope its usefull......

oh but im am having trouble with toilet training.... grrrrrrr, how r u going?

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im going through the same thing. my 2 1/2 year old hates bed time. i make sure he has a cup, and we watch 1 baby show together, but then after that i just put on my programs till he gets bored and falls asleep. it is like world war 3 every night before bed- i asked what i should do on here and didnt really get any good advice. good luck 2 u, but wanted to let u know ur not the only one. i think its hadr for us all !!

Sarah - posted on 01/30/2010

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Thank you for your response! I will definetely try that. I've actually been trying to be more strict and make him realize that he has no other choice, but it's still difficult, hopefully he'll get it soon!! It's already worked in a couple scenarios. But thank you very much! I'll keep heading in the direction I'm going in. I know some of the things he does is "a stage" but I wish he'd get out of it already! As for the potty training, he originally didn't want one of those seats that goes on the toilet seat, so he was using just the toilet for awhile, and now he has no interest. So we let him pick out a seat, and he chose a Spiderman one. But he STILL wont go! I've tried a few different approaches, too like, "if you want to be a big boy" "theres surprise for you" "you've gotta go potty or we can't go for our walk" stuff like that. The only time recently that he actually listended and went on the toilet was when we were just at a hotel for the weekend and I told him if he couldn't go on the toilet before going down to the pool, then he couldnt get in. And he went! So I guess I've just gotta keep working at it, and trying everything I can think of! Thank you!

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