My two year old daughter hits

Angela - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my two year old daughter has started hitting.. how do i make it stop?!

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Tia - posted on 02/19/2009

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If she knows it's okay to hit you, she will think its okay to hit others. It's something she will have to grow out of. Maybe you may just have to pick her up and take her to something else to take her mind off of hitting that child, if it continues after telling her no and apologizing. It has to stop at home first, than it will outside of the home on play dates or where ever. As far as it being right to hit or flick your childs hand, thats understandable and reasonable for a parent to do. holding back and hitting them is not right. You are not doing anything wrong. She just really needs to see that you are calm in the situation (not losing your temper) and that you will be patient with her. In time, it will end. When mommy is calm, baby is calm.. behavior is key- she watches your every move and will more than likely replicate what you are doing. If you are calm in the situation and show her how to handle it better, she may do the same and listen to you.

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Angela - posted on 02/19/2009

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Thanks for the suggestion. I have been doing time outs and telling her not to hit. She hits other children. I can handle her hitting me. I mean I can teach her not to do that but other kids is so hard. Time out doesnt seem to do anything! I am feeling so frustrated...!!! I put her in time out, I make her say sorry to the kid she hit and then seconds later she is hitting that kid again. A few times I loose my temper and flick her hand but I know thats not right.. I just need some more ideas on how to nip this in the bud. Its been going on for three months and its way to long!

Tia - posted on 02/19/2009

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Most people tell you to ignore it. Put her in time out, tell her why she is in time out, walk away, set a timer for 5-10 minutes. If she gets up, put her back.. keep doing this until the time is up.. reseting it if she gets up each time. Once time out is over, calmly walk to her, tell her again why she was put in time out and that its not okay to hit. tell her to give you a kiss and a hug and say shes sorry.



It should work effectively. Hitting her back will not work, it shows her that hey its ok for mommy or daddy to hit, so i can too. shes too young to understand at two that its not an okay behavior.



does she hit all the time? playfully? after you yell at her? when she gets mad?

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