nap vs no nap?

Ashley - posted on 08/25/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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ok so we have a 33 month old who will be 3 in Nov.. now our problem seems to be if she has a nap after lunch she takes 2 times long to go settle down for bed at night and then will wake up every few hours and then be up by 5 am thinking its time to start the day.. if she doesnt sleep at all during the day she goes to bed fine and sleeps all night.. is it ok to cut her naps out or is it just mean?

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Ashley - posted on 10/24/2011

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because you never know there could be another mother out there going through the same thing and would like to read it all and maybe even vent abit on here ... and instead of making that women write her own question when the question is clearly here she wont have to ... I have no problem with it .. do you?

Ashley - posted on 10/24/2011

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well not to be rude or anything but until yesterday I forgot I even Had THIS post so until yesterday there was no reason to lock it ....

Bonnie - posted on 10/24/2011

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Don't leave the thread open, you are just going to keep getting more and posts. Some people don't look at the date and some don't read the other comments either.

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Kids need downtime. Even if it is just one hour of quiet time in the afternoon. And the sooner they are taught that the better. Mommies also need downtime! I think cutting out naps at 1 and 2 and 3 is opening up the door for 4 and 5 year olds that won't settle down. With all the stimulation in our society today, and the busy schedules often resulting in being out until evening, they need a down time. I don't care if they want to sleep or not, kids should be taught that for a certain period each day there is quiet. Like everything, it requires consistency and dedication to train a child that quiet time means staying in bed reading or playing or something else.

Corinne - posted on 09/02/2010

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Cut them! My 2yr old doesn't have them anymore for exactly the same reason. He goes down at 7pm and gets up at 7am. Yes, sometimes if he's had a rough night, I'll let him have half an hour, but no more otherwise we're back to square one. And no, you're not being mean, you're preserving your own sanity! x

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Wendi - posted on 03/30/2012

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if your toddler seems fussy without a nap then you know you need to still have take a nap. maybe try doing something that you know will really tire her out if you need a break like whenever we take our daughter to the park we know she will be ready for a nap. she gets tired our quick then we do by chassing her around. if you are able to handle her without her having a nap then than thats great . id say try it.

Bonnie - posted on 10/24/2011

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You are right, Ashley. It could help another mother to be able to read it, but I have been on this site for awhile now and from what i've seen mothers don't usually scroll through to find answers to their questions. They just start a new thread. This is why sometimes there are 3 or more of the same questions within the first few pages.

If you lock the thread, they will still be able to read it. And no, I don't have a problem with it. It was just a suggestion based on your comment. Otherwise you will likely keep getting responses.

Ashley - posted on 10/23/2011

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lol guys thanks for the advice but now the child this post was about is about to turn 4 lol nd my youngest is almost 30 months :)

Kali - posted on 10/22/2011

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Cut out her naps! My son stopped napping at 2. She will be fine without a nap.

Nichole - posted on 10/17/2011

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well my daughter is 27 months and she doesnt like to take naps unless she is in the car. But i still give her quiet time in her room for an hour or two. But she sleeps all night weather or not she naps..

Lesley - posted on 09/08/2010

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just try to keep them awake during the day then they will sleep well at night but sometimes if they have been doing lots of things they need a little nap just limit the time they sleep for that way they should still sleep through the night without waking you up

Amy - posted on 09/08/2010

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Every child is different. My four-year-old is the same way. Has been for a long time. At daycare, they had him taking a 2 hour nap every day. He didn't want to go to bed until 10 or later. I have to get up at 4 a.m. so that wasn't working for me. Now in Pre-K, they don't get a nap. I am loving it! He wants to go to bed at a decent time now and he sleeps well. He never slept through the night when he was in daycare all day.

Roberta - posted on 09/08/2010

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I had to cut out the naps for my daughter at 3 or I would be up til midnight and have to get up at 4am. I also had to have the sitter not give her a nap with the rest of the kids. We all are alot happier for this.

Melinda - posted on 09/04/2010

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We do a "rest" time, meaning they don't have to sleep but they have to settle down i.e. lay down and watch a movie for the length of the movie, if they fall asleep great, if not they had some down time and end up less whinny later ...

Angela - posted on 09/04/2010

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My daughter has her days when she just doesn't nap (at home). She still takes an hour to two hour nap at daycare, but on the weekends she just won't do it sometimes. I still make her go in her room for some quiet time and she can look at books or play with her stuffed animals. Even though she doesn't need the nap, I sure need that hour or two to recharge my batteries! :)

Melissa - posted on 09/04/2010

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My daughter will be 3 in Oct and she has not taken naps since she was a year old. If we are out and about she will take one in the car as car rides make everyone sleepy it seems. There are a few times she will just go and put herself down for a nap but its not likely. As much as Id love "me" time while she naps Ive never made her take one since she took herself off nap time because I enjoy my time with her as well.

Bonnie - posted on 09/02/2010

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My first son stopped napping as part of the routine at around 18 months and my second son around 21 months. Now they are almost 4 and just over 2. The only time they usually sleep is in the car sometimes. Believe me, they might be cranky by dinner time without a nap, but they are much easier to get to bed and at a decent hour.

Nicole - posted on 09/02/2010

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Wow my son is 3 1/2 and he will still take a 2 1/2 hour nap. If he doesn't by after dinner (5pm) he is so moody its unbearable. He will go to sleep at 9, 930 and wakes up around 630 645.. He starts preschool in the next couple days and nap time will be cut down. We will see how it goes. But to answer your question, I don't think its mean at all the cut out nap time. If its not needed than its not..

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I'd rather sleep through the night so I would just cut out the nap or keep the nap really short (no longer then 45 minutes).
If everyone is sleeping better with no nap, then everyone is better off.
At this age you can implement a quiet hour instead of nap time where she can only do quiet activities like look at books, do puzzles, colour etc.

Helen Katrina - posted on 09/02/2010

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my daughter is 2 and doesnt take day time naps anymore, not really my decision as she just stopped cooperating with trying to sleep, but since she's stopped napping during the day her night time sleeps have been great going to bed a 630pm and waking up at 8am with no waking during the night

L - posted on 09/01/2010

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Kindergarten doesn't do naps anymore. So, I'd cut the naps if they don't help you in any way. Seems like she'd be ahead on the curve for kidergarten. For us they still help. He gets so crabby if he doesn't get his nap.

Dawn - posted on 09/01/2010

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Not mean at all..in fact it seems like she is telling you she doesn't want them!! :) If she seems like she needs one after all, try putting her down earlier. When my son turned 14 months, he decided he was ready for only 1 nap, but it was the afternoon one he gave up not the morning. He just turned 18 months and if he misses the morning nap he doesn't take one (with a few exceptions ie, being sick)

Kelly - posted on 09/01/2010

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My son is 2 1/2. He occasionally goes without a nap, but its obvious he still needs them because when he misses them he gets over tired in the afternoon/evening and his behaviour is terrible (whingey, sooky, tantrums etc). But I have read that kids do start to drop the daytime naps (on average) between the ages of 2 and 3. So definitely not mean as long as you are taking the cues from your daughter and it sounds like you are ;)

Mary - posted on 09/01/2010

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my daughter was 11/2 and my son was 11/2 as well we cut out the naps, they didnt seem to need them anymore and they were unsettled at night. if they are really tires, they have a little sleep on the sofa for an hour. it isnt mean at all. I like the idea of quiet time, but it is harder with 2 babes running around.

Brooke - posted on 08/31/2010

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My daughter is three and no longer takes naps. By 2 1/2 she had no interest in a nap. We started doing quite time. Usually for quiet time her and I will read and lay down together or we will watch a movie and if shes tired she will fall asleep during the movie or if she really needs a nap we'll take a nap its just not part of our daily routine anymore.

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