Naughty 15 month old!

Angela - posted on 01/26/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My 15 month old daughter is going through a very naughty phase and its driving me crazy! SHe climbs on things, does things she is not supposed to and pretends she doesnt hear you, on top of all the naughtiness lately she has just been winging constantly and very irritable. If something bugs her she screams at the top of her lungs for a good 5-10 min. I dont know what to do with her. I have tried smacking, yelling, ignoring, explaining, crying with her.. nothing seems to help the situation. Have been waiting for some more teeth for a long time so hopefully this is just teeth getting ready? Has anyone been through this and is it an age or a teeth issue?

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Alda - posted on 02/02/2011

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She doesn't sound naughty to me, just sounds like a normal 15 month old. My twins are 2 1/2 and they're still like that lol. They experiment, investigate etc. It's not being naughty, it's just exploring their world and testing the boundaries. I learnt on many parenting courses though never to call the child naughty. It's the behaviour that's naughty. Good luck

User - posted on 01/29/2011

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My son went through this stage and someone at our church gave us advice that children need to see mommy and daddy spending time together. At this stage of our lives we were super busy and didnt pay attention to actual time the kids got to see us interact. We started spending time sitting on the couch and talking etc... in front of the kids and almost overnight we saw huge changes!!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2011

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It sound's like she's starting to go through her terriable 2's and girls develope faster so it makes scense. I don't think teething is a factor...It sounds like she is testing her boundries and your patince

Kelly - posted on 02/09/2011

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Some of the best advice I read was don't use the word "no" unless they are doing something unsafe. Remove them from the unsafe situation, tell them no, and explain why it's not safe. I also ignore certain behaviors or remove him and distract with something else.

September - posted on 01/27/2011

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I think every parent goes through the phase you're currently in with your toddler...she's just being a toddler! I'm all about Love and Logic with our 2 year old. I've use the recommended strategies since our son was one with great success. Of course he still has melt downs just like any other toddler but I know how to work with him instead of against him. I personally do not agree with any form of negative discipline such as time outs, spanking, yelling etc....I've found that natural and logical consequences as well as positive reinforcement work really well with our 2 year old. There is a Love and Logic website that you could check out, it's a wonderful resource that I refer to a lot. There are also some amazing books as well. I think that the most important thing is to understand the phase that one is going through so that you know how to better unwanted behaviors through positive strategies. Good luck!

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Brianna - posted on 02/11/2011

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dont worry its just a phase shes going threw plus teething it will pass. I have a 15 month old daughter thats going threw the same thing and she only has 4 teeth so its gonna be a long time for me lol

Delani - posted on 02/07/2011

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remomber to make things quick and siple and say what you have to say in about on sentance any more that that and they are hearing bla.. bla.. bla.. blaaah after about the 5th word.

Amber - posted on 02/03/2011

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My son did the same thing, he is about to turn two so he is still sorta in that phase! They are curious about what their boundries are! I get down to his level and tell him why I don't want him to do that sort of stuff....b/c he will get hurt! I let him decide on some things so he feels involved! I also like to use 1-2-3 magic, it actually works! He is learning it very quickly! I also am going to go through this 3 years in a row! I have a 9 month old son and am pregnant with my 3rd! I was on birth control when my second was concieved and the mirena with this baby! I hope all goes well for you and your child! I have found that getting down to their level and speaking calmly and clearly to them, they actually take it in and start turning around a little. It might take a while but in the end it helps with the relationship between parent and child! I hope this will help!

Krissy - posted on 02/02/2011

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The person that posted about kids needing to see you spend time with your spouse is actually spot-on...

Part of the reason we start to get these probs from our adorable toddlers... is that they are still in the mindset that the sun rises and sets on their schedule. They, very naturally, ONLY think they are important...

Demonstrating that they are expected to not be the center of the universe helps them to start understanding their very loved, but very "child" place in this world.

It also gives the child a sense of consistency and security, too.

Plus, I know what it's like to try everything, but really sticking with one way of responding is your best bet. At this age, being very clear about the rule and the consequence is important for her to learn.

For example, she learns that pulling on the TV cord is a hand smack, and screaming her head off is being carried to her room and left (use baby gate and baby proof room, and check on her) until she's quiet... then when you go and get her, smile and tell her that she may scream in her room. Do this consistently!!!

Crystal - posted on 02/02/2011

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I'm glad to know mine isn't the only one doing this i have an 18month old daughter who does not respond when i tell her no just looks at me and keeps going climbs ont the tables throws major temper tantrums if you mak her her get down off of something,take something from her or refuse to give her something she screams at the top of her lungs,falls out on the floor,if there is anything around she can grab she'll grab it and throw it she knocks over her toys and has hit me a couple times just started time outs i realy hope it works my first daughter never did this at this age she started her terrible twos at 3 so she was alittle older and understood what no meant and what would happen if she didn't listen ugh i hope this phase doesn't last long for any of us good luck mommies

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I had to double check to make sure I did not write this (lol). my son is 14 months, and I have a hard time with him. A big difference is he has been whiny since day 1. He gets better some days. I do not know about them understand or knowing what no is yet. (SHOULD THEY KNOW BY NOW?) He will not listen, I will bring him new things to play with, move him, I try putting him in his pack n play but that does not last long because he will NOT stop screaming! And that gets stressful. A lot of these things are stages. I cannot really tell you to much, I know my older son did this at 14-18 months. He slowly lost those habits.
WHAT BOTHERS ME MOST:
I spend half my day chasing him and stopping him from messing with things he is not supposed to, he does it right in front of me! So not much advice, I did many of the things you did with my older son and he grew out of it.

Shelby - posted on 01/30/2011

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sounds close to how my son is but hes more so abusive. he will punch slap, pull my hair, pinch, if im layin down he stomps on me. i have no clue what to do with him either so if you find a cure let me know!

Aicha - posted on 01/30/2011

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have you tried to distract her and also if she is climbing things find a safe thing and let her climbing it as for the screaming what works with my daughter is to get real close to her and very loudly make a shushing noise until she calms down and stops screaming , when she is teething she gets really fussy and starts trying to bite so I give her a toy or wet wash cloth and tell her to bite it if it is really bad I give her infant pain medication

Brianna - posted on 01/28/2011

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my daughter is the same age and going threw the same thing. Ive recently got fed up and started giving time outs and its working. Because shes 1 year old she has to side for one minute and if she gets up i put her back without saying a thing and reset the timer. if u give him outs u need to be pursitant cuz they are going to test u but as long as u dont give in they will so realize they cant get away with being bad and will start behaving. goodluck

Delani - posted on 01/28/2011

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How good is the language of said 15month old? I have 5 children 3 of them are very close in age 6,4,2. the 6 and 2yr are Deaf and I use ASL with them. This said we did not start using ASL with the 6 yr old until she was almost 2 1/2yrs old... she started screaming about everything and anything because she could not get her needs across. When she started understanding simple basic signs, yes, no, drink, hungry, want more and such the screaming stopped and it got much better. since we were already using it in our home when are now 4yr old was a baby we naturally used it with her... We did not suffer the terrible 2-3 with her cause she had a form of comunication that she was using by 9months. If you are afraid that it will delay speech it did not for us... I had her tested last year cause I was worried about some letters she was not pronouncing correctly and was informed that she had a vocabulary way above her age. AS for our current 2yr old Deaf child no terrible 2's yet and she will be 3 in October... good luck home this helps. Some libraries have children s signing books or some health dept have some pamphlets with first 100 signs.

Lana - posted on 01/28/2011

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I believe every child does something for a reason, the reasons usually being hungry, tired, or bored, When she starts yelling at top of her lungs, try bringing your voice down a few notches (if someone is yelling how can you hear what they are saying?) maybe try diversion if she is yelling get a few kitchen pot lids out and clanging them together, bet you will have her in stitches after a few minutes. Do you spend one on one time with her? Try diverting her away from the "nauh=ghty" behaviours and encourage her for the good things that she does. For every "naughty" thing she does, try to compliment her on 7 good things!

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I'd say it's just all part of growing up. My 15 month old is the same way right now. The climbing and whining are the worst! Oh, and he pretends not to hear us too... he thinks if he doesn't look at us or acknowledge us then we can't see him doing bad things. It's funny but irritating haha.

Casey - posted on 01/26/2011

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Sounds like teething to me and a bit of the terrible twos sneaking up on you early lol, I know how you feel though cause my son went through the same thing at that age too and I wish I could tell you that it gets easier but it doesn't, try giving her some pain relief medication when you notice shes getting very crabby and try giving her some icy poles to suck on (make your own healthier ones if you want or even frozen fruit helps too), when she is just being a plain old ratbag just ignore her if she screams don't even look at her just walk out of the room, if she climbs on something then just get her down put her on the floor tell her no and if she cries or screams walk away she'll eventually realise that shes not going to get a reaction out of you, but the more you yell and scream and fight back the more shes going to do it cause shes getting your attention and getting a reaction out of you.
My son is two years and 4 months now and still carries on like a crazy person sometimes and I still find that I am just walking away from him now but the tantrums are getting less and less thankgod, hang in there :)

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