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Cynthia - posted on 10/15/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I just took 2 home pregnancy test and they came out positive. I have an 11 month old via-csection. I am scared that I might not be ready for this second child. I can't imagine loving any one else like I love my daughter. I'm scared that I might have a repeat csection because the first one wasn't all that great. I'm going to call the doctor for an appointment on Monday since it's the weekend. until I speak with the doctor I might continue to be nervous so is there any advice or anything you experience mothers can tell me.

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Hey, im 21, got 2 half year old and a 15 month old, so your two will be afew month more apart than mine, i had a c section with both, second c section i recovered fast from, if i have another baby it will deff be another section. Its deffinatly hard, it turns into a job after one, lol.. Its so worth it though to see your two babys playing together (when it does happen) or when my son will give her something, when they hug and kiss each other its so special.. Id say its about managment, time together with both seperatly, and carefull handling. its scary when you first find out but in the end its a choice you made and something ou have to deal with. its hard but worth it for that little moment you will all share together. Nothing else will matter

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I had a similar c-section experience. I hope you have worked everything out by now, just remember how much you love your 1st, and you will love your 2nd just as much. Your little one will be 9 months older when the second baby comes, and while having 2 under 2 may be a little stressful just think of the benefits of having them close in age. Plus, think about the relationship they will have too :) You have proven how good a mom you are by worrying!

Best wishes for a healthy and uncomplicated c-section.

Tana - posted on 10/17/2010

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Everything will be just fine.

I had a c-section with my first and decided to have my second when he was 10 months. There was complications with my pregnancy that made me have to have another c-section when it was time for baby #2 to be born but it had nothing to do with my first being born by c-section. There is a lot of women out there that can have a natural problem-free birthing process after having a c-section with the first.

As for the part about not loving them as much, I was worried about that also but as soon as you see your baby on the ultrasound and feel that baby moving around you will feel a whole lot different. There's nothing better than feeling that love you feel for your daughter times two.

Good luck and best wishes with everything!

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Vanessa - posted on 10/21/2010

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girl keep it i have a 18 month old and i am 1 month pregnancy it goin be hard but keep it girl cuz there some people that cant have kids imy daugther she 18 month she my life and also this abe in my belly i also had a c sectin with my frist but the doctor told me this time i can try push so i am try it .

Jenni - posted on 10/21/2010

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Things will all work out! It's difficult coming to terms with an unexpected pregnancy but everything will fall into place.
I hear you on the c-section mine went terribly as well. My epideral wasn't enough and I felt the entire thing! I was so scared that I might have a repeat with my 2nd. I was also worried about the recoop. time when I had a 22 month old to care for. Well I ended up going 2 weeks past my due date again (same as with my first) and had to get another induction which increases the risk for c-sections. I was terrified of going through another after my first. I was progressing nicely in the hospital and got to 9.5 cm after 8 hours. Then I was stuck in a catch-22 with baby pushing down and causing my cervix to swell so I couldn't get to 10 cm. My doctor decided to procede with a c-cearian. I voiced my concerns about my last experience to any hospital staff that would listen... nurses, my doctor, the anestisiologist (sp?). He recommended a spinal and it was AMAZING. I didn't feel a thing and I didn't have any pain for 48 hours after the birth.
The recovery did suck. Fortunately my MIL and mother helped out at a lot while my husband was at work.
The first 6 weeks was very difficult and stressful... getting use to balancing a new baby and toddler plus mananging my pain post c-section. Around 6 weeks I had become an old pro at taking care of two little ones. The key to coping in the begining is one day at a time... well actually.... one minute at a time. ;) when i'd find myself really stressed out and overwhelmed i would remind myself: "Take one step at a time" concentrate on the task at hand and don't think about the 100 other things you have to do after. If you get it done, you get it done. Just prioritize.
As far as loving anyone else more than your first. We all feel that way about our second. You will love them equally in time. But I do believe your first will always hold a special place in your heart. Mine does. I loved my little boy the moment I discovered I was pregnant. I hate to admit it but it took me a lot longer to feel the same about my daughter. Then it becomes a different kind of love. Your first was special because everything was new and you experienced all his firsts for the first time. With your second you'll know what to expect. But that's a good thing because I think you can sit back and just relax and enjoy your second more, not worrying about every little thing because you're inexperienced.

Raeleigh - posted on 10/20/2010

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I have a 2 yr old and 11 month old. I had both of them via c-section. Its not that bad as long as you have extra help for the first few weeks. My 2 daughters are 15 months apart. Best of luck to ya@

Audrey - posted on 10/20/2010

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Just hang in there and it will work out....I cant picture what u r goin through but i am hear if u want to talk.....Just hang in there

Cynthia - posted on 10/16/2010

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It got infected and I was bleeding. for a month they were packing my insition

Brandy - posted on 10/15/2010

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i have to admit im a little confused by this. what happened with the c section the first time?

Sasha - posted on 10/15/2010

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I didn't have my daughter via a c-section but i have a 15 month old and am 3 month's pregnant. I can't imagine loving anyone as much as i love my daughter either but i know when this baby is born i'll love this baby like i love my daughter. Just try and think positive.

Amanda - posted on 10/15/2010

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You will be fine!! My first was born via c-section as well and my midwife said that I could have become pregnant when he was 6 months and still had a VBAC. I know it can be very overwhelming, I was always worried about my scar rupturing just from my uterus growing from the baby! Everything turned out fine and I had a lovely VBAC experience.

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