Need help getting my son to sleep through the night

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My son wont sleep in his crib at night. He will sleep if you hold him or are laying beside him!I dont know what to do anymore.

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Lisa - posted on 04/13/2010

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Agree with carla. i did it to my daughter. everytime she got up n begin to cry i didn't pick her up and give her milk. i let her cry usually about 20 minutes until she fell aslept again. my daughter slept trough the night since she was 3 months old. if you have time you can read abook baby wise by garry ezzo. it help me alot. good luck

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Amy - posted on 04/14/2010

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Kids are funny. They are smarter than we think they are and when they can get what they want they will try and try again until the habit is broken. If you can stand it you should let him cry, remember he's safe and its not going to hurt him so its okay if you dont "save" him all the time. Once he learns that you mean buisness he will stop putting up such a fuss. It will get better and better every night until he just starts being content to go to bed. Be persisstant and remember everytime you go in to calm him down you have to start all over so resist, take a shower or something if it bothers you to listen. It will work I promise.

Bettina - posted on 04/14/2010

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I would move him to his bed once hes fallen asleep, that way when he wakes in the a.m. he starts getting comfortable with his own bed. And if he wakes often in the night I would give his some Enfamil Restful formula in his bottle before bed, it keeps baby satisfied throughout the night.

Carla - posted on 04/14/2010

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I hope that Nicole can get some rest now! We on Moms circle certainly understand her stresses. Take care Nicole and have a restful sleep! It may be hard at first because the crying may break your heart but it will pay off in the end! Do you have a monitor in your room to hear the baby? If you do, then you as a mom should know by the now your baby's cries, what they mean, weather he is plain fussy, in pain, wet etc. You will also know when he wants your attention. That cry is a start and stop cry! Why? because when he cries and stops and then cries again that is saying "CAN YOU HEAR ME MOM"? Come and pick me up, "DON"T DO IT"!!! Let him fall back asleep. Eventually he will know that you will not give in to him, however that you do love him, it's only to teach him independence.

Carla - posted on 04/13/2010

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The best thing to do is what I did and now my baby falls asleep by himself. You put him in his crib you make sure that he is safe from pillows blankets etc. Give him a kiss goodnight and walk away. Set your timer for 20 minutes. Close the door and let him be. he will scream, yell, and try to make you feel bad, Don't feel bad. You will now be creating a strong independent son like I am. Then, what you do, is every night you do the same thing, you say goodnight, I love you, it's sleepy time and you walk away, make sure that his diaper is dry his belly is full and that he doesn't have gas, After that you are on your way to a restful night my friend. Email me at Carla0823@bellsouth.net, I would love to know how your story ends! Take care and do it, Don't cradle him, don't do that anymore! Even if he cries! He will be a spoiled baby and you will never rest if you continue. Create an independent strong child! Oh and not to forget that mommy needs rest!

Crystal - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter takes naps in the living room with me, but that is ok with me. We had a hard time getting her into her own bed at night, because my husband works graves and so I would let her go to bed with me, and then when he got home he would move her to her bed. Now I have a routine, its bathtime, story, and then into bed. I leave her there no matter how much she cries, and she has now learned that I won't come in. She is smart though she has learned to say "ew! ew!" and then "diaper" and this means she needs a change but if I go in to check on her she takes off out the door and then I have to chase her, so now I wait till she falls asleep and then I go in and check on her diaper. Usually it is clean, but she is getting creative with it. lol. I hope this helps. Good Luck!!

Kiara - posted on 04/11/2010

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RANAE IS RIGHT YOU SHOULD START OFF BY PUTTING THE BABY IN HIS CRIB FOR NAPS SO0 HE CAN KNOW THAT , THAT IS HIS BED TO SLEEP ON , AND JUST AS TYLANA SAID HAVE LIKE A NIGHT LIGHT ON HIS CRIB AND SOME DANGGLING CRADDLE TOYS HE CAN STARE AT WHILE HE'S IN THERE AND HE WILL GET USE TO IT. AND IF HE CRY'S DONT PICK HIM UP RIGHT AWAY WAIT TO SEE IF HE WILL STOP BECAUSE THATS WHAT HE PROBABLY WILL BE WAITING ON IS YOU PICKING HIM UP. JUST GIVE IT A TRY;)

Tylana - posted on 04/11/2010

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Hi, ummm, well me and my husband had that issue with my son for a while..try putting him in the crib at night with a night light...he will cry more than likely but just try to leave him in there...after a few times of crying himself to sleep he will realize that you arent going to come and get him and he be just fine...I hope this works for you

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yea he is normally at the babysitters during the day when my husband and I are at work and on the weekends im lucky if he will take a 30 minute during the day. At times i think he might be too tired to sleep since he doesnt nap.

Renae - posted on 04/10/2010

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does he sleep in his crib during the day? start with naps to get him comfortable in there, and work up to nights. I put my babies in their crib wide awake now after making the mistake of nursing my firstborn to sleep at night. He didn't learn to put himself to sleep and would need to nurse to sleep if he awoke at 4am!



Can you stand to hear him cry? I have left mine crying in the crib a few times until they fell asleep (usually less than 20 min and I was nearby if they got too worked up) but my husband won't let them cry more than a few minutes, it drives him nuts to not pick them up! If he falls asleep when you hold him or lay by him do you place him in the crib? He will get used to sleeping in it if you keep putting him there...



Having said all that, the kids all come crawl in bed with us if they have a bad dream in the night- I feel like we will never have our own room again! ;)

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