need some good tips on potty training at my wits end

Natalie - posted on 11/05/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my three year old will not go to the potty without being asked and it doesn't seem to bother him if he dirty.

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Hi-
I understand that many parents disagree with offering a reward for performing a bodily function.

But, for our family, it worked perfectly and we wouldn't change much. At 2.5 years old, our daughter was very ready to ditch the diapers. We created a Potty Chart and printed black and white stickers (Dora the Explorer and her friends). The first day we implemented the chart, I learned my lesson -- if a child wants a sticker on the chart they can and will pee 6 times in 36 minutes. Over the course of the next week, I set a timer to go off every 45 minutes which was about how long her bladder would hold. She earned a lot of stickers. We reserved a special colored Dora sticker for #2s. At first, she would beg for us to put a pull-up on because she was trained to do a #2 in diapers or a pull-up. We remained calm and asked her what would make her feel better about it -- she wanted to go in private, so we partially closed the door and waited outside ready to coach her on the next steps.

We kept the chart going for a month -- at the end of the month, she was completely dry during the day. Over the next 3 months, she had one accident. We didn't push her to stay dry at nighttime but we made her nights more structured.
1) 8 ounces of juice or milk with supper
2) After she had her bath and brushed her teeth, she could have up to 5 ounces of water during story time which includes 3 books
3) She has to try to pee right before she crawls in bed

She turned 3 a month ago and I'm proud to report that began choosing panties over pull-ups 2 weeks ago. She's had one accident -- but she was in the process of getting out of bed trying to get to the potty.

Next up for her is a chore/responsibility chart with more stickers.

Heather

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Ida - posted on 11/16/2010

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so im not the only one!haha my son is now 4 and he also didnt care if he was wet or dirty, I finally rewarded him, i went to the dollar store and got some things that he would enjoy and every time he went to the potty i would let him draw out of the "goodie bag" i would wrap them so that it was a suprise for him. also i would give him a sticker chart and when he had so many i would take him to his favorite place to play or eat. i took about a month and he got to where he didnt care about the suprise he just didnt want the smell on him anymore hope it helps Ida idasumner@ymail.com

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I actually tried to start potty training before my son's second birthday. He really wasn't interested. He'd sit on the potty for about 5 seconds then get up and run off. He did a little pee in it once, even though we praised him, gave him a treat, he really wasn't interested. So we waited a few months and now he's interested.
Yes, pushing them is the wrong thing to do. My little guy just didn't want to be bothered yesterday. I asked him a few times if he had to go, and he shooed me away. He didn't get on the potty until after dinner.

I think the Pull ups are ok. They are a glorified diaper, really. They work for my son because he can't seem to grasp and pull off the tabs on his diaper to get it off. So instead he tries to just pull it off, he gets frustrated and starts screaming.
My problem now is not getting him undressed to get on the potty - it's getting him to put his pants back on AFTER! I have to chase him around the house and hold him down just to get his pants back on. He wanted to play out in the backyard half naked this morning! LOL

Jessica - posted on 11/09/2010

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one thing i have noticed helpful while potty training my 3 year old son for peeing is by telling him to go make bubbles in the potty....so far the peeing has been a success but the poop is still unsuccessful

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My son is 3 and won't pee or poop on the potty yet. We've got all the tools (potty chair, etc) and he's showing most of the signs of readiness but he's just not ready yet. Could that maybe be the case with your son? If we push too hard too soon, it can make the process take longer. I also wouldn't recommend using Pull Ups. Out of the moms I know who have used them on their kids, they all say it only made the process take longer. I don't see what the big deal is about Pull Ups anyhow. I never did. I mean, it's just a diaper that pulls up and down like underwear. What's the big deal? Might as well keep them in diapers instead. They're the same thing, only cheaper than Pull Ups.

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I know some people are uncomfortable with this, but do you let your son in the bathroom when you are going? Both me and my husband allow him in the bathroom when we have to go. They get the idea of what they should do. It's a bit easier for men to show boys since they have the right parts, and how to sit down to pee.
We put out two potties. One in the living room and one in the bathroom. The first one we got didn't really look like an actual toilet so my son didn't like it. We got a fisher price potty and he started to get interested. Suddenly he wanted to take the seat off the potty chair and put it on the "big boy toilet' to go. We haven't gotten him to poop yet, but we're still early in the training (he's only 26 months). We also got a kiddyloo toilet seat reducer. It is the seat with a step ladder attached. It fits really snug and it has handles, so he feels really secure climbing up and turning around to sit down. Before we got this, he only would try the potty once in a while. Now he wants up there all the time!
Good luck!

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Oh- I meant to write that if you're able to- undress your child from the waist down when you're at home. This will reinforce we pee/poop on the potty, not in our pants.

Jessica - posted on 11/08/2010

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i am having the same problem.....my 3 year old will pee on the potty but not poop

Jenilee - posted on 11/06/2010

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I'm having a heck of a time too, my 3 yr old still is in pullups, but he's getting a lot better once we got the constipation issue solved... He was holding his poop in, because it hurt once, and then he didn't want to go anymore, in his pants, or in the potty... so like 3 months later and almost a whole bottle of Miralax and we are finally pooping again! I hope that doesn't happen to you, I found that just letting him sit for a while and not even asking if he has to go to the potty works, because now he is telling me when he has to go poop, and sometimes pee, sticker charts also have worked wonders on my end... GOOD LUCK!

Debbie - posted on 11/05/2010

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hi How long are you leaving him for when he is wet ??? I left mine for 20 mins in the wet and they didn't like it , the poo was a bit longer but not to much .. Boys are lazier than girls are you using pullups as I found they only confused them Hope this helps

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