New baby vs 17 month old

Erin - posted on 11/09/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Ok, well I have a 17 months old son and a new born (2months) and Matthew (my son) is having problems with me holding Elle (new born) he is acting out and throwing little temper tantrums. He never did this before. I am not sure what to do, do I punish him and if so how? Is he to young for time out?? or do I just ignore the tantrums.

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Ashley - posted on 11/11/2008

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my daughter was about 15 months when my son was born she gave up her bottle and tried to help take care of him. she was never jelous of him.

Erin - posted on 11/11/2008

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thanks guys....I will try all what you suggested...I have to say Matthew does seem to do better when he helps me out with baby sis.

Jill - posted on 11/10/2008

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Hang in there...my son had the same issues when we brought our daughter home. I agree with the last few responses...alone time and "mommy's helper" are important tools to getting your well adjusted toddler back. We have used timeouts since our son was 1 yr old. The timeout is based on age...minutes=yrs old. We use timeout for bad behavior like hitting others or throwing things, etc. I don't think we ever used timeout for tantrums...just made sure he was safe and ignored them. He really didn't do the tantrum thing long, I think as their vocabulary grows and they learn to control their emotions the tantrums go away.

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I went through the same thing! I thought it would never end! Now the new baby is 7 months and my toddler is 2 and she loves him to pieces. I just tried to give my oldest attention when the baby was alseep and had her help. She has finally adjusted! Now whenever the baby cries she tells me "baby ba ba"! It gets better, but it takes a while! Hang in there!

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I had the same problem...my daughter (Ashley) was 18 months when her little brother (Trevor) was born. She would act out and be so sad at times and I felt guilty bringing another baby into the family - she was usually so happy. Ashley would go as far as hitting the baby when I would hold be holding him.

A few things that helped was having Ashley be mommy's helper. She would help me hold the bottle for her brother when he was eating, help me get diapers, and help me burp him,.....it made her feel important and that she had a special job.

I also gave Ashley alone time during the day. When the baby would be napping, I'd be sure to read with her sitting on my lap or play and have one on one time with her. It helped her understand that she was still important and she wasn't being replaced which is how many kids can feel in that situation.

Now Trevor is 7 months old and they get along great. She gives him hugs and kisses and says she loves him.

It's so hard when your going though it, but it does get better!

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