New Sibling, Older Child Acting Out - NEED ADVICE

Billi - posted on 05/24/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




hello! I have a 2.5 year old and a 12 day old. Our older child use to be great at listening and nap/bed time. Since we brought home her little sister she doesn't pick up her toys when we ask, and nap & bed times are such a struggle. (as well as other things - putting on shoes, wiping, - really any thing that we ask her to do). She loves helping with her sister & gives her hugs & kisses but she is really testing my husband & I. We have taken away toys, her fav blanket & lovely, Yo Gabba Gabba, and whatever we can think of. Time outs don't work anymore either. She just laughs and when its over she still doesn't listen to us. We dont want to go out anywhere because we are afraid she will act up & we wont be able to control her. I have no idea if the arrival has affected this behavior, or if it is a coincidence. Does anyone have any advice?


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Amy - posted on 05/26/2011




I agree with April. I have a 4 yr old boy and an 8 mo old boy. My oldest absolutely adores his little brother and vice versa but that doesn't stop him from getting some major attitudes. On days that I spend more time with baby or even doing more housework than giving him attention, he is a terror! He gets in my face(figuratively speaking) and keeps demanding my attention, "Mom, look at this. Mom, look what I can do. Mom watch me do tricks..." So I've been really trying to spend one on one time with him. Playing a game or taking the boys to the park. Sometimes I'll take only him with me to do errands. It definitely improves his behavior AND strengths our mother/son bond. It's a win win!

April - posted on 05/25/2011




she's acting out! she probably feels pushed out my oldest did that with her sister. she went from doing everything on her own to not knowing how to do things, whining, and even quit using the potty even though she knew how. it lasts for little while, the way i broke my oldest and got her back to where she was is I made time just for me and her whether it was a shopping trip to get food/ anything for the house or just going for a walk to the park. and i talk with her, told her what a good job she is doing and to how awsome it is for her to help. and explained that big girls get to do fun things when they are good. she loved the idea and is presently on track. (with reminder time to time)

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