not listening

Samantha - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my 16 month old son will not listen to me no matter what i do and when i smack him he just laughs at me what can i do to get my son to start listening!!!

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Claire - posted on 03/31/2010

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Its really hard but I'd try not to show any frustration. My 2 1/2 yr old boy can completely ignore me or do the exact oposite of what is asked of him with a defyant look on his face and its hard not to snap. The problem is the more angry you get in every day life the less likely they are to listen to your angry voice when you REALLY need them to! Its sound so text book but the only thing that works time and time again for me is to ignore (completely ignore) bad behaviour (sometimes I will even leave the room) and to praise praise praise good behaviour. It very easy to stop noticing the good bits and then they realise they only get attention when they are naughty (thus the naughty behaviour becomes the norm) Just give it a try for a few days and see, if it doesn't work (and you really have been constant) then I wouldn't know what else to do. This really will work though but you have to force yourself not to break it even once for a few days to give it a fair trial (Children hate noting more than being ignored)

Amanda - posted on 03/29/2010

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for my 2 and a half boy, the timeout really works.it may take 2-3x of putting him there but he'll stop what he's doing to get there. he gets 2min because he's 2. it'll get longer as he gets older.

Kelsey - posted on 03/26/2010

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my daughter wouldnt listen to me no matter what i done until i started putting her into her bedroom when she was naughty. she would kick off but after a few minutes she would calm down and now she listens to me when i tell her off cuz she knows she be put in her room if not. it might work for you too!

Mariah - posted on 03/26/2010

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my son is now 4 and stil doesnt listen. In my household we do the bad parent good parent. If he doesnt listen i tell his father when he gets home and he gets in trouble. It sounds pointless but getting them to listen is an everyday thing that you just have to stick with and discipline. Show him you mean business. Could try time outs. We put a chair in the corner and make him sit there until he is ready to come and listen. Hope that helps

Sonia - posted on 03/25/2010

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i think they all go through this stage to see how far they can push it,learning their boundries!! my son is 3 in a couple of wks&he still has moments like that,i try to use a reward type scheme like-if he is a good boy he will get a sweet or somekind of treat,or if there is something that he likes to play with or do during the day ie. favourite toy or go to the park,tell him he cant have it or go today??cant remember how much a 16mth old understands-feels like a lifetime ago mine was that age!! lol but i hope that this has been helpful?x

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