Older siblings interactions with a new baby.

Tricia - posted on 09/10/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 3 year old daughter will not keep her hands off my 2 month old. She thinks she needs to constantly touch, hold, cuddle, and mother her. Is anyone else having this problem, if so how are you handling it?

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Krissy - posted on 09/13/2010

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i can underdstand that,it would get anoying for you and the baby.i kept a constant eye on him at the beginning have you bought a doll for her so she has
her own 'baby'? i let my boy choose his baby and
he chose upsey daisy from the night garden. it did
help some what. i think that she is just over excited and she just loves her little sister too much. i also think patents is the key as well as giving some extra time to her. you probably already do but if you double it it does also tend to help as she then feels like she's not left out after you tend to the baby. get her to help out with the house chores with you or whatever you need to do when the baby is sleeping.it'll past as oneday when you little one is not so young anymore it'll kick and try to push your little girl away just like my girl does to her brother this is a good learning curve for the eldest sibling as they state' such and such hurt me' and you can just let them know that this is because they dont want to be loved so much.

Tricia - posted on 09/13/2010

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I do let her hold her and involve her in taking care of the baby.However, that isn't enough for her, she wants to be touching and loving on her constantly. And the baby doesn't like it.

Krissy - posted on 09/13/2010

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i acually disagree with that my boy was alowed to hold his sister as soon as she was born. he now is very over protective of her as she of him. i believ just as long as you let her know that 'only when big ppl like mumma and daddy let you hold her' i think it is okay. she is exploring and the more you ask for her help like' can you get me a nappy or wipes etc...' she will love the idea even chosing her sisters clothes for the day( or when the throws and other doesnt interfear) they get over their sibling pretty quick but you dont want to push her away and resent her sibling. i have seen this a few times when the parent has told the eldest 'no you cant help ,no you cant hold her/him' and the child has not enjoyed being a big brother/sister and there for turns on the baby and trys to hurt it as it is the only way they think they can get attention. this is also why they want to help to get your prasie and get attention in a good constructive way,not in a bad way.

Jakethia - posted on 09/10/2010

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@ Ehmcke , she trying to get to know her new sister or brother, but tell your three years old daughter, she is too young to hold the baby. Let your daughter know when she get older, she can help you take care of the baby and cuddle with the baby. While, I wish you the best with your three years old daughter..............But she is too young to hold the baby..........

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