one day i want another baby the next i dont help

Hillary - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




So my soon to be Husband and I have been talking alot over the last year about having another baby come feb. when we get married. & i cant make up my mind if i really want one or not and its driving me literally crazy. One day i am all about another baby. & the next i dont want one at all. Our Daugher now is 2 and by time we would have another baby she would be 3. she is getting alot easier now to care for. & i dont know if i want to go through all it over again. Can someone help please. Has anyone else felt like this b4?


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Hillary - posted on 12/20/2009




The thing is my firest pregnancy wasnt bad neither was delivery. Besides the fact that i got Huge & felt like a fat cow. But other than that nothing went bad nore has raising my daughter went bad. I dont feel i'm scared either....idk its confusing. blah

Laura - posted on 12/19/2009




I feel that way alll the time my daughter is 16 months old and i miss that baby feeling errrg but i look at my wonderful daughter who gets into everything and think no but I really really want my children to be close but not far in age and i don't know what is the perfect age i don't want it to close lol

Lauricia - posted on 12/19/2009




I have four children as well, but my first labour was pretty horrific and I was afraid of going through it again...until I had a phantom pregnancy. That is, I thought I was pregnant again and did a test, which came up positive, then I went for a blood test which came back negative. It really upset me, but it made me realise how much I actually did want to have another baby. All my fears just vanished.

Like I said, now I have four and I'm really enjoying them all. They're like best friends and they all help to look after each other. It takes the load off me coz I can ask one of the older kids to help me do things, and they really enjoy being treated like they're 'big' and 'responsible'. Plus, I get a lot more laughs and joy watching them pass the 'milestones' and sharing the excitement with each child.

I think the fact that you feel like you want another baby at all means that you are ready. As soon as you fall pregnant again, I'm sure you'll be over the moon!

April - posted on 12/19/2009




I feel the same way and after reading the last post, I think what you're going through is probably pretty logical. Just remember it goes by so fast! Remember how quickly thos first 2 years were and how fast your baby grew. I think ultimately I'll get preg myself in thenext year I'm just trying to plan the right time now. Good luck!

Lady - posted on 12/19/2009




i have four children and always knew i wanted a big family - i could never have concidered having an only child as i feel an only child is a lonely child. three years is a good age gap beetween them she is old enough to help but young enough to still be able to play and be close to her new brother or sister. if you had a rough time with the first baby please be reassured this is quite typical as you were just learning and it was all new to you it does get easier the second time around. hope this has helped good luck.

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