Play groups and child interaction.

Kat - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Alright, so I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for how I can get some social interaction with my son. We tried a playgroup (or Gymboree-type class) with him at about 20 months. He wouldn't listen to us, sit still, or interact positively with the other children. In fact, since he spent so much time out of "circle time" and on the slide, he practically caused an uprising because all of the other children wanted to be on the slide too. Then he pushed little Annie off of the slide when it was her turn. I know it was our first attempt at something like this, but I am still traumatized by this...even months later. I'm a young mom and I don't know any other parents in my area with 2 year olds...How can I get my son used to other children when I can't get past our horrendous experience in playgroup?


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Breezy - posted on 05/06/2010




Talk with your GRANDPARENTS!! Playgroups and "social interaction" is a 20th century phenomenon! Im going to be blunt so please dont take this rudely! Kids are KIDS!! Its YOU that has a problem with letting him test his boundries! Kids learn compassion and respect through you! If you take him somewhere and he acts up your showing him that he can just LEAVE a situation! SUGGESGTION! Take his hand and show him how to help the little girl up! Tell him to say he's sorry, even if he doesn't comprehend the meaning of sorry! Its practice! Take him to the park, let him play with kids without you helicoptering him! My own sister-in-law sounds similiar to you, she pulls her kids away at a panic moment, rather than letting them learn from the experience. I asked her why she does this and she replied, its not my kids Im worried about its the other kids, she went on to say that she dosent know what their intentions are. (She grew up in Foster Care) I said, Sweetheart, kids want to play, they want friends, they have to learn to be friends, their intention is to have a moment of being a kid and having fun.... If your kid plays by himself on the slide, let him! I think the fact that the other kids wanted to join him shows what ever else was going on wasnt as fun in the eyes of a 2 yr old as a slide! :D

Susan - posted on 04/26/2010




Just keep trying, it will get better. I don't know any moms around where I live either so we go into the city for playgroups. Last week I took her to the library for the first time for story time, she was younger than the other kids (she's 19 months) but she loved it. Just like it takes us adults time to warm up to people it does our kids too. Try looking for something in your area on Meetup that's where I found our playgroups.

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2010




I would just try again. Mostn moms understand. I did a class with my 15 motnh old twins this winter and for every class I ended up in the circle by myself. I just let it slide and tried to get them back into circle with me. They didn't really play with the other kids but I read that they don't really start "playing" with each other until 2 or 2.5. The only way to do it is to just keep trying. Maybe look online or in the paper for a local mom group. They often do playdates. Good luck:)

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