please help i cant cope with 4am any ideas

Katrina - posted on 03/02/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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hi i have an 18 month old son who has decided he likes getting up at 4 am every morning he as never been an excellent sleeper but has started to sleep through the night but get up at 4 am we have always had a bedtime routine bath bottle bed and that has never changed he goes to bed at 7pm every night with no problems, the only thing that has changed is that i have started a part time job. I have tried giving him a bottle of milk when he is getting up but he still wont go back over to sleep, i am exhausted and am willing to try anything please help?xx

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Mindy - posted on 03/04/2009

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I had been working nights and would go to bed @ 3am or 4am. We would have to get up to take my daughter to school @ 8am and then come back for nap time. If he would not go to sleep I would let him watch Barney, Baby Einstein,or Elmo and play in the same "baby safe"room I was in. The draw back was, the tape would run out or he would need something, so I would get alot of broken sleep. The good things were...he learned alot from the shows! He is 3 now and knows just about everything my daughter did in Kindergarten.

You just do what you have to do and hope you can catch up on some sleep "SOMEDAY!"

Hopfully it is just teething or maybe he is on a growing spurt...that always woke them up too.

Hope all is going better for you!

Katrina - posted on 03/03/2009

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thanks to everyone for all the suggestions we ad a better night last night i only let him sleep for a hour through the day yesterday instead of two and he slept until 6 this morning which is fantastic im going to continue with that today and start to shift his bed time back a hr or so and see if that eventually gets him back into a desent routine thank you.xx

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I have a toy in my son's crib, his glow-worm. When he wakes up I can usually hear him playing with it, and then it helps put him back to sleep. He has other stuffed animals etc. in there as well to amuse him if he wakes up in the middle of the night or early morning. My son just started the 4am waking as well, but I noticed he's cutting in some molars, once they were through he went back to sleeping through the night. Good Luck

Maria Elena - posted on 03/03/2009

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try to keep him up later at night & if he takes good naps during the day say 3 hours, i'd try gently waking him up after about 2 hours so as to reduce the possible grumpiness & hopefully making him more tired at night. also, may want to try an before bedtime snack with his bottle like a few crackers or some fruit bites. good luck.

Rebecca - posted on 03/03/2009

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Seems that your son is sleeping about 9 hours before he wakes.  My 2 year old sleeps about 10 hours at night.  I don't want him waking me at the crack of dawn so we keep him up a little later.  If I keep him up until 9pm, he won't wake up until 7p.  Some kids don't need as much sleep, especially if they take good naps during the day.  Figure out how much sleep your son needs at night and adjust his bedtime accordingly.  It may take awhile to even out, but hopefully he will learn to sleep.  Hopefully you don't have one of those kids destined to be a morning person, up with the birds every morning! :)

Ginny - posted on 03/03/2009

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Have you tried putting something "new" in his bed when you go to bed so that there is something there to amuse him when he wakes up?  A book, toy he hasn't seen for a bit etc.? Just a thought

Nicola - posted on 03/03/2009

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Mix his routine completely to reset his clock!   Keep him up till 11pm ish, then if he wakes it should be out of sync (dont worry so much about the bath time routine, there is plenty of evidence that bathing a child every evening makes them more succeptable to skin problems!) My son is perfect & I wouldn't have dreamed of bathing him every night!.  Keep him up till you go to bed, don't try to stick to a 'normal' bedtime, reduce the lateness of bedtime by 30mins when it seems to be working, till you get it where you want it.  Now with my son,if he ever wakes, there is a small faint nightlight in his room, I never turn on another brighter light, I do not give him drinks through the night, no talking to him, you just go in firmly check all is ok & then leave the room. I also have a blackout blind in his room (& a child that rarely gets up through the night!) Make his room a cocoon, a warm dark place he will want to be, my friends can't believe my child is like a teenager with the odd blip of a few nights here & there he needs to be woken & he now hides under his duvet when I tell him to get up! x

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