Pooping in the Toilet???

Tammy - posted on 02/05/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am at my wits ends. My four year old completely refuses to poop in the toilet. He will pee everytime,but will not poop. He will stand right beside the potty and poop in his pants. My 3 year old potty trained himself and I have not one issue with him. I have tried bribbery, treasure chest, I am out of ideas. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.


Monica - posted on 02/06/2009




Maybe at one time he became constipated and it was a little painful. When this happens, the child decides he doesn't like that feeling and becomes a little anxious about having a bowel movement. This is hard to correct. I had the same problem with my little one. But now we make sure he at least, tries everyday. When he does go, we have a reward calendar which he gets to add smiley faces too, to add up to something special for that weekend. And I have increased such things like fiber, fresh fruit, and vegetables during the day to prevent constipation. He's 3 now and when we do have a bout with it, we give him "hot chocolate" and we put just a tiny bit of coffee in it. Works like a charm. But we only do this in case of emergencies- not all of the time. We try to allow him to be resposible. But it is important to stay on top of his habits, because if it becomes the least bit painful again, it will bring those anxious feelings back again. WHEW, it is challenging. Good luck.


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Brooke - posted on 02/06/2009




Oh I feel your pain. I am actually in the same boat now. What Monica said below makes perfect sense to me because my son gets constipated and at one time it was really rough on him...so, sorry I have no suggestions but just wanted to say I feel your pain. I wish us both luck.

Melissa - posted on 02/06/2009




I have to leave the bathroom while my 2 year old poops in the toilet! maybe he needs more privacy?

Shauna - posted on 02/06/2009




We had trouble getting our 2 year old to poop in the potty too.  He would pee, but not poop.  So we asked him like 100 times a day "Where does poo poo go?"  And then he would say "poo poo in potty!"  We would make him tell us that all day long.  We would even have him show us where it goes and all that seemed to work.  It sounds stupid, but it worked.  Good luck!

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