Potty Time?

Courtney - posted on 11/12/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )




How do you get your 20 month old child to enjoy going to the potty? We tried using a small one but she destroyed it, and when we put her on the toliet with the potty seat on it she just squiggles around and wont sit, she dunks her feet in the toilet, and if we give her things to play with she just throws whatever it is inside then we have to go fishing for it. Does anyone have an idea?


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Lindsay - posted on 11/14/2008




I put a potty (the Baby Bjorn one...love it!) in his bathroom when he was about that age and just sort of let him get curious about it without forcing anything. He would sometimes go before his bath and here or there but I never made a big deal out of it. We got him the Elmo Potty Time DVD and let him watch it and that seemed to get him excited about it. This might sound odd, but letting him go into the bathroom with you and daddy as much as possible and letting him see what's going on really helps. After MANY months of just letting it be a non-issue, he started initiating wanting to use the potty ON HIS OWN at about 2 1/2 and it was not a huge struggle or battle. At that point, forget pullups and spend a few days at home in regular undies. Let them have a few accidents and feel what "wet" is like. If they continue to have multiple accidents, they're not ready. Save yourself some frustration and try again later. They get it eventually! =)

Tamara - posted on 11/12/2008




i have a 2 and a half year old that is only starting to use the toilet now and is doing very well. maybe she just isnt quite ready to train yet so my suggestion would be to leave her for another couple of months, at least til she is 2, and try again cause i agree with the other mum she doesnt sound ready yet

Beth - posted on 11/12/2008




At 20 months I would just wait. I tried and tried and tried with my little girl around that time until I was blue in the face and it just wasn't worth it! I waited and she trained around 28-30 months and did great. When she is ready she will be glad to do it and you will be a happy mommy not having to fight about it! The potty is the last thing you want to have to stressed about. Being a stay at home mom can be wonderful even though we don't understand our kids all the time. Just take time to enjoy them and keep in mind that they won't be little forever. You only have a small window to make a difference!

Monica - posted on 11/12/2008




20 months is pretty early for potty training. And TRUST ME... the worse thing you can possibly do is try to force it before she's ready. This will backfire and she will associate the potty with something bad and will rebel against it. The average age for potty training for girls is 2.5 years, boys 3.5 years. For now, I would encourage her to visit with you when you "go to the potty." Tell her "Mommy feels like she needs to use the potty now..." then invite her to go with you. When you've finished, tell/show her "Mommy's tinkle/pee-pee/#2 is in the potty now" then clap. Say Yayyy!! Mommy tinkled/poo-poo'd in the potty! Ask her if she'd like to help flush then say "Bye-bye tinkle/poo-poo!" as the water goes down the drain. As goofy as this sounds, it makes the experience fun for her. Plus, children do what they see, so she'll be less afraid when she begins to understand the sensation that she has to go.

Courtney - posted on 11/12/2008




thats the thing though. she`ll tell me that she wants to go, she even goes as far as bring the seat to us to tell us, but as soon as shes on there she`ll like freak out on us. being a stay at home young mom of 2 (other is 9 months) just doesn`t seem to be working for me I guess. I just don`t understand kids.Maybe its because I`m stressed. But thank you for your advice... =)

Rebecca - posted on 11/12/2008




I would have to agree that she is probably not ready yet. I tried with my son about that age and he just wasn't interested. We tried again when he was almost 3, once he started telling me it was time to change him, and it took 3 days to potty train. I think they will start using the potty when their ready. The difference is just how long we spend trying to talk them into it. Just have faith that she will let you know when she is ready.

Shae - posted on 11/12/2008




I agree that she is probably too young, if she is acting that way. But, yes, if she has shown interest in the going to the bathroom, if she can put her pants on/off by herself, then she is more ready for it. I potty trained my son at 2.5, and had a relapse, until just barely...he is now almost 3.5, but he has only had 4 or 5 accidents in the last two months that he has been potty trained. My 20 month old girl, is also showing interest, probably because she wants to be like her brother. She will take her pants/diaper off by herself, and sit on the toilet, although she hasn't figured out how to actually "go" yet. But it is a start.

Maybe you can try taking away the potty chair for awhile, and see if she kind of forgets about it, and bring it back out in a month or two, and get her all excited about it again, since it will be a "new" thing again. Hope this helps.

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It sounds like she has no interest in it quite yet. She is still relatively young. Has she given you signs that make you think she is ready. For example, does she not want to wear a pull-up, does she tell you when she has poop, etc? I would wait a until she turns 2 years old...which is still young. I potty trained my son when he was 2.5 yrs. old. Because he was old enough and showed signs he was ready the whole process took maybe a week.

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