Potty training and ear infections(illness)

Jennifer - posted on 02/28/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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So, today I stayed home with my 2 1/2 year old toddler. She has an ear infection and was tired and irritable lots of the day. The part of the day that she was ok though, I had just taken her to the toilet and she peed. But, when she was playing , I notice she was trying to mess her pants and of course she is in underwear now. So I said, come on my girl lets go potty. Well, she stuck her bum out and deliberately messed her pants. I was somewhat perterbed at her. I cleaned her up and put her on the toilet again. I had a talk with her, then she probably guessed my frustration when I said sit here, in the time out spot , cause she actually stayed there. Not long after, it was pretty cold out today, so we had to go get my son from school, then take my daughter to the Dr. for her ears. Just before we went I went to start the car and well she peed her pants and my couch!!! So not impressed and quite frustrated. what to do with her.
I love her and feel for her as she isnt feeling well, but am having a difficult time with some of these behaviors. Help!! any advice?

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Janelle - posted on 03/09/2011

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So I got Amber a step to use for the toilet and in the space of four hours yesterday avo, she used the toilet by herself four times!!! All were wees though because she asked for a nappy on to go poos. Is this normal??

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2011

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Well we were doing most of this stuff already. Behaviors tend to compound when you have stubborn ( and sick kids). Hoping her earaches are gone now with the second round of meds. FINGERS CROSSED!! Think we will go get her checked to see if there is still fluid in there.
But on a good note Echo has been accident free for 4 days now!!! We praise her up good and now she is pooing and peeing in the toilet. We always use the toilet with a toddler seat on as the potty didn't work for us. She likes to do what us big people do.

Janelle - posted on 03/08/2011

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By the way... I found Nikkis post helpful and will try some of her ideas too! :)

Janelle - posted on 03/08/2011

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I have just started toilet training my little girl who was two just recently because she just asked to go on the toilet one day! I thought "Well nows a good a time as any!" We have proper knickers for her and "undies" which are pull-ups and I think depending on her mood and confidence - she chooses which ones she want to wear. If we have an accident.... she goes back into a nappy.. no big deal... easy enough so far and she understands why she goes back into a nappy!
The thing Im getting used to is having to go with her every time - frustrating but neccessary at the moment til we too, get a step for her. I make a big deal every time a trip to the toilet is "fruitful" and if not, just say "Ah well, you just let mummy know when you need to do wees again okay".
My question is, being a first time mum and finally getting to the point... Is this the right idea?? Anyone got any others??

Nikki - posted on 03/04/2011

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Hang in there, my little guy is on his second set of ear tubes so feel for you!

Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2011

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Thanks Nikki. I do appreciate this. We take her to the bathroom regularely of course. Sometimes though her poo accidents are quite deliberate. My son did this also, thinking its their control thing. I did just what you said with him. He is 15 years old now.lol . Now we just have teenage issues with him.
Now with the toddler, she does very well with peeing in the potty, but pooing is her issue. She will stick her little butt out ,and I will take her to the potty quick, but its too late. But yesterday, she finally went poo on the toilet with a toddler toilet seat, on our own toilet. Our bathroom is right near the living room, so very short walk. Yesterday she finally went poo on the seat and she is nearly always on routine, so his week has been a little difficult with her being sick.
She saw the specialist today for her ears, she goes back on the 6th of April. He wants her to finish her antibiotics. Its another struggle, she hates her meds!!
Thanks for the advice. Im a mom of 2.

Nikki - posted on 03/03/2011

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Hi Ladies! This happens a lot during the process when something like illness or a change in routine comes up. I would reccommend one of the following tips to try to get them back into the potty routine-

1) Potty on Schedule, often times they will try to go for a reward (my son got a small sticker for trying, a medium for wee-wee and a temp tattoo for poo) Its stinks to reward for the behavior but at the same time it makes it fun.
2) Have them clean the mess, mention you know accidents happen but look how germy and yucky it is and this is why we potty so we can say bye bye to the pee and poo.

3) Naked training- I have potty trained 9 kids this way. We set them up where they can not make a huge mess, a potty seat or toilet nearby...etc.

4) Re-enforcement of positive potty behavior and explanation you understand WHY they have the accident. (ie I understand you have a hard time remembering to go because your ear hurts/you are playing/ etc, but having to take time to clean up messes from accidents makes it even harder"
Good luck!
"Professional nanny for 15 years and a
professional mommy for 4"

Louise - posted on 03/02/2011

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Yes we are having a much better day today we went to mums and tots and she used the toilet there and we had no accidents so I hope we are back on track.

I have a 16 year old too and a 19 year old but he is at uni. My 16 year old works full time and thinks hes 25! The joys of motherhood hey!

I have added you to my freinds list we have so much in common :-)

Jennifer - posted on 03/01/2011

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Hope your girl gets out of this too. It makes one wonder what is going on in their heads.

Jennifer - posted on 03/01/2011

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Thanks Louis. She is generally not too bad. Thinking its a bit of a control thing/ illness. Today is much better and she is behaving really well. She will be seeing an ear/nose/ throat specialist regarding her ear infections on Thursday.She is starting to talk ok and is more understandable and is repeating more.
Now for my 15 year old not arguing with me. He slammed a door and jammed it this morning. He is suffering some consequences needless to say.
I may seem strict, but I also have 2 strong willed kids. Although, the little one is only like that when others are around. Thinking she just felt crappy yesterday. But, I dont want her to continue this. She hasnt had an accident at all today. But we are having trouble getting her to poop in the potty. But I went through it with my son too. Echo will be 3 at the end of May. Kind of would be nice to see her trained fully by then. I only put her in a pull up when she is sick,at nap time and bedtime. The rest of the time she is in panties.

Louise - posted on 03/01/2011

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I feel for you I have been training my daughter who is 2 years 4 months for three weeks and we have had no problems at all. She asks to go and I take her 100% success but today she has messed herself twice and peed on the couch yesterday whilst I was sat next to her. I really could cry as this has come from nowhere. She is not ill she just can't be bothered. Why after three weeks is she doing this I have no idea. I hope she snaps out of this as I am losing my patients with her. i know you are supposed to have good days and bad bu my bad days seem to come altogether. If I recall my two sons reverted back for a short time as well so don't worry it wont last long (I Hope)

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