Potty Training: Any Advice?

Kristina - posted on 12/16/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




Hey ladies!! My son just turned 1 year old this past Friday, and since then, I've gotten a lot of pressure from my maternal grandmother to start him on the path to potty training. In my opinion, at just one year old, he is not capable of knowing the "urges" however, with that in mind, I would like some ideas on how to make the transition from diaper to potty easier, for the future.

Would it be a bad idea to get him a little potty seat and just set him on it whenever? My goal is that he be potty trained by 2, so I do have a year, but it doesn't hurt to start thinking about it early.

Any ideas/stories?


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Heather - posted on 12/19/2009




On the potty issue, every child is different. Some children are not ready until they are closer to three. 18 months is a good time to start them on the potty or taking them to more consistently. My son is 16 months and when he hit 15 ( i did let him come to the potty with me) he started going into the bathroom. My husband would set him on the potty with the diaper on and then he would leave and not play in the bathroom. I may start earlier on the potty training but i also am going back to work almost full time in January and will be having my mom watch him.

My friend adopted a boy when he was about one and her son is still not wanting to use the potty. He is just starting to grasp the concept that he is going and leaves the room, but he has been fighting it for a long time.

Just don't let other people push you into trying things too early. Watch for signs that your child is ready.

Brandy - posted on 12/18/2009




my 4 year old was pottyed trained at 2 and a half. It like to have drove me nuts taken him every 30 min you really can keep that up put a red dot in the potty and tell him to see if he can hit it. it worked on mine.

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I got a potty seat for my daughter a little after her first birthday. A friend had told me that, just like adults, running water can give you the urge. Therefore, sit baby on the potty while you fill the bathtub -- it worked for my daughter the very first time. The dual benefit is that they have an empty bladder when they get in the tub!

Stacey - posted on 12/17/2009




When my sone turned 1 we got him a potty and we started with him sitting on it while we brushed his teeth before bath. At 20 months we started the full potty training and he was almost trained. I had my daughter when he was 21 months and he went to not even wanting to sit on the potty. At 25 months we tried again and he was trained in 1 week. (only during the day) I had a little trat jar on the counter that he got when he went to the bathroom. My son is a child who loves to please peole especially himself so this worked for us. Every child is different.

Kristina - posted on 12/16/2009




Thanks for the ideas ladies. I know I'm WAY ahead of myself here. I just like to "plan" ahead. I was a preschool teacher, and now SAHM, but I've never had to deal w/ the potty training issue. I'm thinking Dianne's idea of brinign him into the bathroom might be a good idea... I'll see where that gets me! Thank you guys1

Dianne - posted on 12/16/2009




I can only tell you about my ddaughter who was toilet trained during the day by the time she turned 2. I wanted to toilet train early as well, due to pressure by family to 'get her out of nappies'. I believe she is advanced, and she really didn't show any interest in a toilet, fussed about being uncomfortable when wet or dirty etc, until arount 18 months. I started then, mainly spending about a month just letting her sit on the potty first thing in the morning, before bath time and after bath time (she never did anything). Then from 20 months, I noticed a huge change in her, and she really became interested with underwear, toilets, wee wee's etc. I spent a week at home, with her in undies and every 2 hours taking her to the toilet, regardless if she did anything or not. Within about 2 weeks, she was running to the toilet to do her own wee wee's. It wasn't until just before she turned 2 that it 'clicked' and she did poo's there too. She gets rewarded with a chocolate button with every poo,, and in the beginning stickers for wee's. We did have lots of accidents in the beginning, but well worth it, and alot cheaper than nappies.

Good luck (I have heard that boys take a little longer to train than girls, and if I had a boy I would teach them to sit on the potty and not stand like Daddy)

Christy - posted on 12/16/2009




actually, i started my daughter out with a potty seat when she was 11 months old and at 16 months old she is totally trained for the day time (night time is a whole different ball game lol). when i started, my goal was the same as yours, just to have her trained by 2 and make the whole process easier. she took to the potty very well, always wanted to try to sit on it, especially when i used the bathroom. when i saw her intrest in potty training i decided to work with her more than i had planned. i would sit her on the potty every 1/2 hour (which i know would be impractical to anyone but a stay at home mom) and it worked out really well. she wouldn't always go and she definitely still had accidents but it really cut down on the amount of diapers that i had to change in a day. once i realized just how much longer diapers were lasting it made me very determined to keep going, even if it got a bit old putting her on so often. i ended up putting her potty chair in the corner of the living room so that she wouldn't have to miss anything when she needed to go, which helped a great deal too. this isn't to say she was trained overnight or anything, sometimes she would go a whole week without feeling like she wanted to potty train. i let her lead me 75% of the time, with the other 25% being me putting her on the potty or offering it to her.

it took her till she was 15 months old to grasp the difference between wet and dry though. as soon as she turned 15 months it was like a switch flipped somewhere and she would come running over to me after she had an accident and ask for the potty, which she had never done before. then just 3 weeks ago when she turned 16 months old something clicked for her again and she started asking for the potty. she has been dry for 2 and 1/2 weeks straight now and even has a dry night every so often.

i have done a few things here and there to encourage her too, like getting her Pull-Ups once she was managing to have only 1 accident or less during the day and getting her big girl panties with her favorite characters on them when she had a good track record have having entirely dry days. i don't buy diapers for her at all anymore since i am trying to get her trained overnight as well- she wears regular underwear during the day and a Pull-Up at night so that it's easier when she gets up in the night to go to the potty (which only happens about 2-3 nights a week). after she had her first dry week, i got a chart with stickers for her so that i can track her progress and she can feel good about staying dry for the day. at the end of each dry week i get her a small $1 toy and when she has her first dry month i plan on taking her to pick out a pack of big girl pants because she thinks they're really neat.

i never allowed myself to get upset with her or be negative toward her when she had accidents focusing instead on the times that she did go on the potty. once you figure out what motivates your son you should have a pretty easy time of things. my daughter likes to feel like a big kid, so i tell her how big and awesome she is every time she goes to the bathroom. also, once the accidents started getting fewer and further between i decided to try to help her out by giving her fewer sippy cups throughout the day and bigger meals with more snacks in between.

sorry this is sooo long but i had great success with my daughter and wanted to share as much as i could to give you some ideas =)

Stefie - posted on 12/16/2009




Maybe try pre-fold cloth diapers for at home. They generally do not soak as good as disposables or modern cloth diapers (like Bum Genius). This way baby will know that he is wet when he goes and may contribute to earlier potty training.

I would wait to go to the chair. I tried my daughter on a chair too early and now it is a toy to her.

I really want my daughter to potty train early so I have her come into the bath room with me when I have to go. I talk about going pee pee and poo poo and that they are icky and go into the potty. I also talk about how we don't touch our icky pee pee and poo poo. This has already helped with her not trying to touch dirty diapers that I am cleaning.

We got her a potty book for Christmas. We plan to let her read it only in the bath room to try to re-enforce this idea.

There are tons of books out there on this subject (mostly they tell you to wait:(.

Good luck

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