Potty Training Delima

Crystal - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 3 year old has recently started using the potty on her own. To get her there we used sticker charts and candy as a reward whenever she had a success. Well it's been a while now and she still expects candy and stickers for every little pee and poo she does in the potty. So how do I change that? How do I get her to realize now that she can use the toilet that you don't always get a reward for doing it? The girl seriously goes only a little at a time so that she can spread them out and get more candy (she's very smart like that). I have tried to just limit it to poos for the candy but she started spreading those out too. And I'm afriad that if I stop cold-turkey she will relapse just so she can get the attention again. What do all the other moms do?


Bonnie - posted on 01/21/2010




I had a chart and my son had to get 6 stickers for 1 candy. Make her earn the candy with stickers. Then slowly make her earn more stickers for the candy. I put a chart on the wall with the sucker beside it. When he asked for the sucker I would show him how many times he had left before he got it.


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Crystall - posted on 01/21/2010




most mothers start out that way to, i think its natural! cold turkey is never a good option for the fact or acting out! with my son, i just couldnt get him to potty at all candy or no candy and just got fed up so i took the brand new diapers and made him atch me throw them away and told him to say bye bye. and put little bit underwear on him and walked him to the potty and sat there for a bit (he fussed) and 10 mins later go thim off (he didnt potty) and told him when he has to go pee pee thats where to go and made him stay in a underwear all day (knowing he would have accidents) and gave him no candy and did no stickers or chart. when he was ready he would go. i asked literally every 5 mins do you have to go potty do you have to go potty? and everytime he would say no. and the first time he had an accident i walked him to the potty for another 10 mins and withing 3 days he knew what to do before he went in his underwear. So with that said leaving her in her panties all day she will eventually start to go on her, because sitting in her urine will get to her

Theresa - posted on 01/21/2010




Make each goal a longer term goel. Candy only if she goes the whole day with no accidents. The sticker chart gets a sticker for the whole day, at the end of the week there can be a reward. Eventually the candy can be cut out totally and the stickers can go to a small reward at the end of each week, or bigger reward at end of month. SHe can choose. Often times though they need something each week to be tangible to "trade" in for the big thing at the end of the month. I had some poker chips that I used. When they turned in a certain number they got the bigger prize, like a movie rental of their choice. If they don't have something they can hold in their hand the long term gets too long for little brains and they give up.

Maggie - posted on 01/21/2010




we still used the sticker charts for a while but in order to get the candy prize he had to go for a full day. Then we spread it out to three days then a week and then no more candy treats. Just make a sticker chart for a day and put stickers on it whenever she goes and at the end of the day if she's had no accidents then she gets a treat. She'll still like doing the stickers but won't expect candy every time.

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