Potty Training... What to do!?!?!?!

Sky - posted on 12/11/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost two, and she will not cooperate with potty training! We have tried M&M's, Stickers, Fruit Snacks, Etc. She will sit on the potty but will not do her business! She pees on the floor and she knows its naughty! What do I do and whats the easiet way to get her potty trained?!??? Stressing out, she is almost two! Makes me feel bad!!

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Patty - posted on 12/22/2009

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Try not to stress. It will happen. I had several false starts with my daughter. Putting her on the potty became a huge argument and a big hassle. The more I pushed for potty training the more resistant she was. So I let it go for a few months. She started telling me she didn't like to have wet/dirty pants so then we tried again and had success. Number 2 was/is sometimes still an issue. The whole candy and potty prize (dollar store stuff) didn't really work with her. She seemed to be more motivated by a reward chart that got her a trip to the Big Boy restaurant. So you may have to be creative with what interests/motivates her.

T - posted on 12/15/2009

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It sounds as though your daughter isn't ready yet. Give her the gift of time. Try again in like 3 months. It is a plus that she is willing to even sit on the potty. If in three months, she still isn't ready, then wait another 2 months or so. This is exactly what I did with my daughter, then by two in a half, I put underwear on her, and told her to keep them dry. She did and didn't have any accidents for months. It was like magic as I had tried two months earlier and I was cleaning up messes all day. When an accident occurrs, don't punish, just calmly state that everyone has accidents. Good luck.

Krissi - posted on 12/15/2009

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im in the same boat we take my 2 and half year old and wewill take him to try to go potty and hell just sit in there and someone told me to let him run around naked....so thats what im trying

Melinda - posted on 12/14/2009

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Don't feel bad. You are doing everything you know to try and get her to do it. Have you tried talking to your Ped.? I ordered a free video on potty training for Huggies Pull-ups training pants website. It is an easy, flexible approach to potty training. I also read that you should not reward your child with treats when they do sit on the potty. I do believe that every child is different and you can use different techniques. Try the video and see if it helps. I know you can do, it might just take her awhile to get the hang of it. =^)

Fiona - posted on 12/14/2009

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My son is 3 1/2 and I am only just getting him to wee in the potty. She will let you know when she is ready to learn

Jessica - posted on 12/13/2009

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you dont want to be pushy with it cause then she might fight you about usein the potty but you will no when shes ready to really be trained, she will tell you to change her she peepeed or along those lines. then its time to start cracking down,my daughter just turned 3 she just started telling me when she needs to go beforeshe goes in her pants i would put her on the potty every time i went and tell her see mommy goes peepee in the potty, and then would put her on it about every half hour 45 mins and if she went in the potty i would praise her like crazy saying good girl u went peepee in the potty

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2009

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My daughter will be 3 next month and is almost fully potty trained - with not much effort on my part! She just did it more or less because she wanted to. I think the secret is being patient, realizing that you can not make them do it and then just taking a break and trying a bit later.

Kathy - posted on 12/13/2009

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I don't start my kids until they are two. They come in the bathroom with me etc, Kids will show you that they are ready and it doesn't sound like she is! I wouldn't worry about it rushing it! When they are ready, there are less messes to clean up!

Kim - posted on 12/13/2009

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My daughter is going to be two in January. I often stress about potty training as well, but in my opinion.. they will let you know when they are ready. If you push it on them, their not going to want to do it. Let them become familiar with the potty, and the time will come. Every child is different.

Brenda - posted on 12/13/2009

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hay ibeen through this with my kids and grandkids,You may want to slow down a little it is not bad for and you are not a bad mom.Than try again in a couple weeks and take her to the store and let her pick uot her new underwear,thantake them home and let her put them in the washer and when they come out than she can wear them.I use only underwear,because the pull up are the same as diapers to them. We as parents see it as a easy way out and not thinking the way the think.I will like to here back from you and i really hope this works it as for me and others that i have told.I will be thinking about you keep me updated.

Sairah - posted on 12/12/2009

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My son just turned 4, and he is only potty trained now...3 months after starting school. If she is not taking to, forget about it. She will let you know when she is ready.

Sharlene - posted on 12/12/2009

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Seriously, I was stressed like you bout making sure to potty train early so my kid wouldn't be the one peeing himself at school etc. I read lots of stuff on the internet saying all the signs to know readiness etc but although I was ready, he wasn't and all those people that say that 'it will happen when thy're ready' are absolutley right. I would encourage you to keep trying butif you're getting frustrated or it's not working to go back to diapers for a few weeks and ty again. I started my son at 2 as I was pregannt and didn't want 2 kids in diapers but it really didn't take until he was 2yrs 8months. He is now peeing all by himself, wiping, flushing washing hands etc but I really think that introducing the idea and going hrough all the 'crap' helped. Don't give yourself a hard time- she's not that old. It'll probably happen for you inside the next year

Katherine - posted on 12/12/2009

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We struggled for months with potty training our soon. Then a friend recommended a timer. We let him help us set it and at first set between 15 and 20 minutes until you figure out her schedule. After we started doing this it took us literally four days! You've just gotta stick with it and have patience. Once she does goes give her the candy. Then she knows she's done something good. Hopefully she'll pick it up fast.

Tanya - posted on 12/12/2009

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This worked really well for us.



*Have at least 12 pairs of underwear (unless you enjoy doing laundry) trust me you'll go through them. Recommended would be character underwear so you can tell her that "Tinker Bell" (for example) does not want to get wet. Get potty candies. Examples of potty candies are M&M’s, Skittles, Smarties, jelly beans, etc. know people don't like bribing...and believe me, I don't either....but this is one thing that's totally worth it in the end. Potty training is such a headache, so anything that helps ease that headache is way worth it. I would never bribe for good behaviour or for chores....those are things that are expected of them. See the difference? So, ya, do what it takes to get it done and over with.



*Get a smaller seat to sit on top of the regular toilet. Don't use the little potty chairs because she'll get used to that and will be terrified of the regular and public toilets.



*Use only underwear except during naps and night time - then use pull ups. Refer to the pull ups as "night time underwear". Don't use diapers! The night time underwear needs to go on and off just like underwear. Also, the thicker "training" underwear is not recommended because it still absorbs the pee. And don't use plastic covers over the underwear. She needs to feel it run down her legs so she's uncomfortable. I know it's gross and messy, but it's very effective! Pull-ups and Easy-ups are just glorified diapers. You can't think/expect that Pull-Ups (even with Cool Alert) are going to do the potty training for you. It will never happen because it's showing the kids that you're lazy about training them, so why should they be any different?



*Take her every 5-20 minutes. Time can be flexible, but only if done right. If it's not timed right, it can be your enemy. Set the timer for 20 minutes the first time. Sit her on the toilet for 10-20 minutes. If she doesn't go, take her off. But, you'll want to set the timer for a shorter time next because it's already been a while since she's gone. Don't make the time longer thinking that 20 minutes wasn't long enough because she'll have an accident. Think about it. The first 20 minutes, then another 20 on the toilet....that's already 40 minutes that she hasn't gone. So the nest time that you take her should be 15 minutes . Each time, decrease the time in between bathroom visits (until it gets down to every 5 minutes - then take every 5 minutes until she goes) and increase the amount of time that she sits on the potty. Don't be afraid to increase fluids at this time just to get her to go.



*Limit her fluids after dinner. Take her potty when she goes to bed. Then, take her first thing in the morning when she wakes up.



*Only give her potty candy when she goes potty or poo poo in the toilet (1 candy for pee pee and 2 for poo poo). Do not give her these candies any other time! It will become ineffective if not done properly! When she does go in the potty, remember "praise, praise, praise! You really have to make a big deal out of this, dance, clap, kids love praise and just eat it up.



*She does not need any distractions like the TV while she's going because she needs to concentrate on the task at hand! You can read a book to her if you'd like. There are several potty books just for this purpose. Otherwise, talk to her about going potty in the toilet. Stay positive!



*When she has an accident (and yes, there will be some....there will be a lot), CHANGE HER IN THE BATHROOM and NOWHERE ELSE! Explain to her that she needs to go pee pee (potty) in the toilet, not her underwear. Stay positive.



*I wouldn't recommend going anywhere until she's trained. Usually about a week. When/if you do go somewhere, keep her in underwear. Do not put diapers or pull ups on! This will cause confusion and she will regress.





There will be a point when you're going to think, she will never get this, but you cannot give up. Once you start the process, you are committed. Stopping and starting just confuses the child.



We went 4 days with so many accidents, more accidents then successes, I wanted to give up, but knew I couldn't. So, I took off his pants and had him bare butt for a whole day. He was about to pee and I caught him, I put him on the toilet and told him that pee goes in the toilet and from that point on, he was actually running to the washroom when he had to go. When he had accidents, I actually gave him a paper towel to help me clean up.



The night training usually takes longer than a week, so don't get discouraged. You can do the night training separate and after she's done day training to make it easier.



Right now, I take my son before he goes to bed, I take him again when I go to bed, even if he is not fully awake, I sit him on the toilet. I leave him there for a few minutes and then I take him off, even if he hasn't gone. He is refusing to wear a pull up, so I am forced to do this, otherwise we may have accidents. He was dry about 90% of the time at night, so he is so ready for night time training.





*Stay Positive! - The second you get upset with her, she will regress.



*BE CONSISTANT! - The second you are inconsistent (and children know), she will regress!

Sara - posted on 12/12/2009

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my son is 3 years old... dont back down... i did the same as all others ... i got tired of the diapers and thats when i said ur going to headstart well his b-day was aug.24 and he started sept.1 at school... i said ur going to school so u cant pee ur pants or poop..u go in potty like a big boy.. well i still have problems but like school said he is learning.. i still buy him stuff here n there only if he goes potty a lot in potty.. its tough but try the school thing and give it time...sara

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I have a 2 year old little girl and I tried to push her into potty training and it didnt work but then i left the potty out-- upstairs downstairs, every time she pooped or peed i said where do we pee at or where do we poop and we said in the potty like a big girl-- i said its ucky in her diaper , we did give candy as reward for like the first month now goes by herself. I believe its when they are ready and I dont get really mad when she has an accident only if its poop and i tell her its disgusting and she will get a rash. She still wears diapers at night and at nap time. We all want our kids to be potty trained but sometimes its a hassle especially when your shopping and she says mommy i got to pee or as soon as you get in the car so have patience and dont give up.

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Hmmm, the dreaded potty training. We did exactly what you did, snacks, licorice, everything. What we noticed worked the best was just letting her be. Also, we bought a bunch of big girl underwear just to let her know that when she was ready she could wear them like mommy. Dont back down, but dont push too much either. And don't get upset with her, believe me it makes it worse! Ask her at intervals of the day if she has to go potty, more than likely she will say no, but it is getting her used to it. My daughter was potty trained at 2yrs 4months. Good luck and I hope this helps =)

Kimberly - posted on 12/12/2009

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Well, like the others have said, it's pretty early to potty train before age 2. I started my oldest son at 2 years and 2 months. I watched and listened for his signs. One sign is waking up from a nap with a dry diaper. The biggest sign is when they hide when they poop. The moment I noticed that my son would leave the room and come back stinky, I started to potty train. It only took me about a week to get him to use the toilet most of the time, and about 2 months later, I considered him fully potty trained. Even at 2 years 7 months old, he sometimes wakes up wet overnight, but that's maybe once a month. People called me crazy for potty training my boy as young as I did, but like I said, his signs told me when he was ready.



Also, if you do decide to potty train now, do not back down. If you back down, then she will think "How long will she try before she gives up this time?" and push your buttong. Children are so smart. Once you start, you really shouldn't stop.

Cara - posted on 12/11/2009

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All kids are different. My oldest daughter was only 14months and potty trained but, my second daughter will be 2 in Jan. 10 (in less than a month) and she just isn't interested in using the potty. She does the samething she will pee in the floor but, not the potty. Just stock up on disinfectant to clean your floor!!! LOL I know I have.

Alina - posted on 12/11/2009

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some of my kids didnt get with the program till they were closer to 3. it will happen. just give it time.

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