refusing daddy?

Lindsey - posted on 11/18/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )




Anyone have issues of your toddler only wanting you and not wanting daddy at all despite his many attempts to love on him? We do have a new baby in the house, so this could be the root cause, but just wondered if anyone had advice to get my 2-year-old to warm up to my hubby more...


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Chris - posted on 11/19/2008




My daughter is like that. It's just her, but for a while there she only wanted ME! She finally warmed up to Daddy because he will do things I won't. Examples: Sit on the floor and play "catch" for hours on end. Play chase until she wears out. And also, if I am tired and she wants up, if daddy is there, he takes her. That was the big one.
try this too: Work him into your routines. At bath I'd run the water and Daddy would give her crayons and color with her (bath crayons). You get him dressed for bed and daddy sits near while you read or sing.
Also, this is more of what we did. (it took a lot!) Make her go out with Daddy. You put her in the seat and daddy drives off. "sneak" out while she is engaged in an activity with daddy. Tell her bye then get her in the activity then leave. If daddy has special ways to cheer her p, then he ca stop her tears while you are gone. Mine would go with her and turn lights off and on.
I'd be the "bad guy" so daddy could "rescue" her from my mean ways.
I guess, and the wording is bad here, but you will have to "force" her to spend time with Daddy. You'll feel bad while she screams and cries for you, but you can't give in. It is hard, for both parents!, when the child only wants one. You want a break and daddy wants to be with the kid. Sometimes it's just a matter of "forcing".

Samantha - posted on 11/19/2008




I'm a stay-at-home mom but I have the opposite problem! My 2-year-old constantly wants his daddy! He usually wakes up in the morning and immediately asks me if his Daddy is home...sometimes he even throws a fit when my husband is at work! I'm pregnant right now with our second, so i'm thinking its kind of a good thing that he only wants to be around daddy! My sister-in-law had the same problem you are having though! They usually set one day a week aside for my neice and brother to do something special together. It seemed to work pretty well...

Catriona - posted on 11/18/2008




Sorry! No advice from experience...but have you tried setting up a special day for the two of them alone?

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