scared of dad

Jennifer - posted on 02/09/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My 16 month old does not want anything to do with her dad when I am around. She screams and cries when he tries to hold her, or to give her a kiss goodnight. But she does fine when I am not around. Is this normal? How can we break this?


Kim - posted on 02/09/2011




I think it is normal for most kids to be more attached to their mom from what I have seen. In our household it is not the case but I think there is a reason for that. I am a stay at home mom so by the time my hub gets home at night I think I and my son need a little break from one another. Ill make dinner and they will play. My hub has always been very involved, he plays with our son constantly when he is home, takes him on father son outings (park or even a football game a couple of times), puts him to bed and most of the time we both get up with him. See if you could encourage more special time for the two of them alone together. This might help her become more comfortable with him in time. Good luck!

Kristen - posted on 02/11/2011




My oldest daughter did the same thing she woul dfreak out if i walked out of the room and she was alone with him. She was just testing us i think to see what our reactions would be but she got over it and now she is 2 1/2 and LOVES him. SHe wants him over me all the time now and i am home with her everyday. tell him to hang in there and it will change

Krissy - posted on 02/11/2011




yeah, it's not a fear of him... it's a preference for you and child might be recognizing that means mom is leaving if dad takes over.

Try having dad do more for her while you are around... sit on floor together, all three of you, and have dad be the one to play with her toys... not you. Let dad get her drinks and stuff while you are there instead of you doing it. Have him feed her, etc...

This way, she doesn't relate dad's involvement with your leaving. It may take a while.

Jessica - posted on 02/09/2011




I agree with Kim, stranger anxiety and having a preference for one parent over the other is fairly common at this age. Also, often times Mommy ends up being the "favorite" because we are the provider of food, comfort, and a whole slew of nurturing that babies/toddlers crave.


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Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2011




thank you. I just feel bad for my husband who comes home from work, and she doesnt want to be around him, but hopefully its just a stage she is going through!

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