sex after baby.......

Amy - posted on 09/01/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 18 months, i never seem to be in the mood for sex. i love my husband. is anyone going throw the same thing. Need some suggestions

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Widya - posted on 09/03/2009

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my litlle Aimee still 9 month. i have the same problem with you Amy, i haven't loosen mood of sex but sometime i was very tired, so i go to sleep early. my husband is the best man i ever knew. he didn't wake me up for sex. i know my husband need sex, but his love more than it. we always communicate and pray about this. so our sex life being normal, although is rare. 2-4 sex in a month is enough for us. and it make our love become more and more..our little one also can feel our love spesially for her. love can express by doing..this is my share for you...God bless u...

Rebeka - posted on 09/02/2009

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I feel for you. I also appreciate that laundry and dishes can wait but I just CAN'T LET THEM!



I have to do the housework or I can't relax to even think about being in the mood. Our daughter is 2.5 and I have almost totally lost my libido. On the odd occasion I feel like it and my husband is tired. We however still do it all the time, I just never feel satisfied. We did it about 2 weeks after she was born, I just can't stand the thought of my husband not getting any. I am now due with my second baby (any day) and am still trying to do it once a week just to ensure that my hubby is happy. If someone told me I never had to do it again I wouldn't care. Sounds terrible right? I am sure it will pass! I was the opposite before I found out about my first pregnancy, totally the opposite. I don't think he really cares but when I make the effort he does appreciate it. He know how tired I am. I am just biding my time until the second baby is a little older and then once my body is back I'm going to knock my hubby out with the whole package of what he married... I hope! :o)

Maggie - posted on 09/02/2009

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I think we all go through that! Being tired can be (and was for me) on of the main causes. If you are able to take a nap when your daughter is napping that might help. The laundry and dishes can wait!! Also, set aside some time just for the two of you. At first use that time to just reconnect. I spent so much time on the baby that I really didn't get any time, even just for talking about our day, for a long time. Once you've gotten that mental/emotional connection you'll WANT the physical again.

Bree - posted on 09/01/2009

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The first year or so is hard b/c you are so tired all the time; especially if you breastfed! I think you have to find new ways to spice things up!! Don't be shy.... he is your hubby!! Ask him about fantasies or even just go buy some sexy lingerie! =)

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What do you do? I mean are you a SAHM or do you work outside the house? After my son was born initially it was that we had to wait 6wks before the dr. would give us the green light, I think even after that it was another 2 wks before we ever really got around to it, just soo tired with the new baby and all... I stayed home for the first 18 months of my son's childhood and as a SAHM didn't really feel "pretty" "sexy" especially since i pumped and always had those contraptions stuck to the front of me! Plus after the baby it was all about baby! Everything, sex included, seemed to hit the back burner... especially since our son mostly sleeps with us... You tend to feel lost in the mix with the new title MOM!!! and then being WIFE... well you need to find YOU and get cozy in your own skin again! I would recommend that you get some YOU time so you can feel independant of your other two titles, and be AMY for a while :) Then you and your husband need to schedule in some HUSBAND & WIFE time, start the whole dating thing over again :) Remember why you guys got together to have a baby to begin with! And I don't know how much your hubby helps @ home, but having the truck load of crap involved in caring for a child and house has a tendency to crap me out @ the end of the night! If he helped clean up after dinner or get the kids their bath, picked up the living room... etc etc etc. then you would have less to do, giving you more energy when the time comes to go to bed. Seeing my husband care for our son & clean the house (giving me any semblance of a break!) always did a little more to turn me on, as odd as that sounds :) I always tried to tell my husband that it starts out in the beginning of the day... if he sent me a few text messages saying how much he loved me, how beautiful i am, sex talk... and when he came home if he would help out around the house, take the kid and keep him busy so I could care for the other things w/out having to worry about the babe (esp since i'd had him all day that was REALLY what I wanted him to do when home!) and keep up the compliments, tell me how much I'm appreciated... these things can go a long way to getting in the mood! Sometimes changing the time of day helps! Get your groove on during nap time, this works better for us since our son sleeps with us! IDK, there's lots of things, but I think you feeling good about YOU will be one that goes a lot farther!!!

Chantel - posted on 09/01/2009

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I am but I figure if I had time to work on myself ya knowrelax w/o someone calling me for like 1-2 hours a day or even a wk maybe I would be able to feel sexy and both of us end up pleasured

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