Should i let my almost 3 year old clean up?

Benitta - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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It might sound strange to some but my almost 3 year old wants to clean up ALL THE TIME and even purposly make messes just to run and get the broom or mop, and when i tell her to leave it mommy a clean it (on accidents) she gets upset and cries and tells me she wanna do it without my help.

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Jackie - posted on 11/29/2009

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Quoting benitta:

Should i let my almost 3 year old clean up?

It might sound strange to some but my almost 3 year old wants to clean up ALL THE TIME and even purposly make messes just to run and get the broom or mop, and when i tell her to leave it mommy a clean it (on accidents) she gets upset and cries and tells me she wanna do it without my help.


Hi Benitta,



 



I could not help laughing!  My daughter is now 19 months old and she wants to clean up all the time!! Since she could walk she would throw her chippies or food on the floor and rush to go fetch the broom or mop or even the little "skoppie and little broom" to come and clean up.  She does exactly the same, refusing help.  But do not sweat it, she is developing her very own personality and she gets it probably from you, Take it as a good sign, she will be a perfect little angel who will keep her room neat and tidy and grow up to be proud of her surroundings. Allow her to be who she wants to be, and enjoy every moment of it. lol.  Jackie.

Valerie - posted on 11/29/2009

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it is probably a good thing and i would acknowledge her helpfulness, cleanliness, etc. someone probably acknowledged her for being helpful and it felt really good so she wants to do it more...it might be a sign of a promising future career...i'm serious

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2009

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yeah sure i dont see why not. my son is 14 months and he spills his juice or milk but he wont get the mop he will get my box of baby wipes LOL

Elizabeth - posted on 11/28/2009

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YES!!!! I have encourage Jocelynn to "help" mommy since she could walk really, now she is responsible for putting toys back (she is 2 1/2) and most of the time enjoys the task . . . I usually say "we can't do (blank) until everything is put back where it belongs . . . hurry lets get it done" I of course do about 50%-75% of the work because I am faster but she helps with a good attitude, just don't treat it like punishment and they won't think it is

Stacey - posted on 11/28/2009

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She is coming in to her own and mimicking what 'big people' do ... let her do it if she wants to, she's exercising her independence. Make sure to say 'thank you' for being a good help, tell her 'what a great job'; 'thanks sweetie' and all that good stuff - even if its not perfect.

Carolee - posted on 11/27/2009

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My son is 2, and loves to help around the house. I give him little chores to do every day. He puts his own dishes in the sink (because they won't break), helps make his sandwiches by holding the peanut butter jar and putting the jelly back in the fridge, and he also cleans up his own toys. He loves it! He also likes when I ask him to throw things away for me. I make sure to make as many trips to the trash can for him as possible, so he thinks he's helping more. I think if you give her things to clean, that might help with her actually making a mess just to clean it up.

SHEILA - posted on 11/27/2009

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I THINK ITS GOOD FOR THEM TO START PICKING UP AFTER THM SELVES.... I WOULD MAKE THEM CLEAN THE BATHROOM... BUT THERE OWN TOYS YEA...

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my son also loves to help mommy. sometimes he ends up making a bigger mess but as long as he isnt hurting anything ill let him him help. we even bought him his own vaccuum and broom and kitchen palyset that we keep in the kitchen. that way when he wants to help cook he can do so from his own kitchen without getting hurt by the real things.

Jenna - posted on 11/25/2009

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Kids love to help, especially when it gets them positive attention. My son is almost 3 and wants to take out the bins himself! It is also good if they want to help, for as they get older.

Nikki - posted on 11/24/2009

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ABSOLUTELY!!!! Get her her own size broom. Don't lose the helping urge! :) Just fix it so she is truly helping. Break it to smaller tasks. And to keep the purposeful mess making at a minimum have her help whenever there IS an even a little mess. I let my son help me with everything. Unloading and loading the dishwasher, taking out trash, sweeping, vacuuming. He does it all with me :) Good luck!

Brandy - posted on 11/22/2009

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Yes you should it shows her early that she needs to help others while helping her self keep things clean

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2009

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that's good to hear! lets give our kids responsibility as it's a start of meaningful things they can use wen they get older,i have 3 kids my oldest is a girl and she has a choir at home to do and i pay her $5 every week not only im teacing her to be responsible, she's learning how important money is and knows how to budget if she needs to get something for her self now she looks after the things she bought as she knows she worked hard to get the money to pay for those things. so if she likes to clean let her she's learning in life

Linnaea - posted on 11/22/2009

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my son isn't even 2 yet and he loves to clean so let her clean away. maybe she likes to clean because it's fun to her.

Alicia - posted on 11/21/2009

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my kids love to help clean up, I think its great to have the help and they learn responsibility from it, cant beat when it comes that early! lol

April - posted on 11/20/2009

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My two year old daughter likes to clean too! Think of that as a good thing lol. When Im cleaning I give her a small task so she feels like she is actually helping. I give her a wet rag and she wipes the coffee table or a duster keeps her busy for a while. She has a play vacumm and believes it is really cleaning the floor. When I do dishes she stands on a chair and I let her rinse. If she feels shes helping you out maybe she wont makes messes on purpose to clean up.

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Short answer: Yup!

My son is 2 1/2 and he's been cleaning since he was about 18 months old. As soon as he showed interest, I let him help. He loves helping mummy, to the point that now he picks up his toys when I vacuum, unloads the dishwasher, sets the table, clears his place at the table after every meal, helps me cook and puts his clothes in the hamper when he takes them off for a bath. When daddy comes home from work, he unpacks dad's lunchbox and puts it away, and then he'll either take the work clothes off his back and put them in the hamper, or (what I think is hysterical) he'll tell daddy where to put his dirty clothes. I swear he's never seen me do that. He also waters the garden every afternoon, but that's more like play to him.

I've never made him do anything he didn't want to do. He just loves doing it. I'm seriously hoping it lasts.

Good luck with your little helper!

Dannie - posted on 11/19/2009

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My son is 17 months and always tries to vacuum and sweep! His doctor said it's just his way of showing us that he acknowledges what we do and just wants to help! I think it's cute, so we just bought him the talking broom and vacuum!

Michelle - posted on 11/19/2009

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my son *he's 6* started cleaning around 2 he's a total neatfreak..give that girl a broom

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