Sit or Stand...which is better??

Katy - posted on 12/16/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 16 months and doesn't eat as much of his meal as he does when he is out of his seat. If he is in his seat he squirms and throws his food around and tells me he is done, but if I put his plate on his tiny table he will eat all of the food, or close to it. He generally walks around for a minute, then comes over to the plate and eats some food, walks around a little bit more, then eats some more. I know being "structured" is suppose to be the better way, but I'd rather my son actually eat his food then throw it around just so he can get down...anyone else got the same problem or any input??


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You could also try a new type of chair, maybe only have him sit down when you do (I have a 15 month old and sometimes I want to put her in her chair so she is safe and I can get everything finished and on the table). I make sure to put her in her chair only when we are ready to eat and it seems to buy us a few more minutes. As well, we make a point to include her in dinner conversations and play with her so she enjoys the time at the table. We are also planning in a couple of months of getting rid of the high chair and just strapping one of the booster type ones to a chair so she can sit like mommy and daddy and hopefully that will help! I am sure its just a phase. Just remember you are setting up healthy habits for life, if you are ok wth your child wandering around at 5 then its ok now, if you don't want them to do it later then I don't try to do it now. How do you tell them it was ok yesterday but today you have to sit still when they have never worked up to it?? If you are worried about him eating maybe try adding a snack and have him snuggle you on the couch to eat, etc... and share the snack (my daughter feeds me cheerios all the time and is more willing to eat them herself then!).

Dora - posted on 12/18/2010




My son was the same way. I think it is a stage. I just let my son walk around and eat when he was that young. Now he is 2 1/2 and he will sit much longer and eat. Even though he is older and sitting more it doesn't mean he sits though an entire meal. He is young and his goal at that age is to have as much fun as possible LOL. So I just go with the flow when he needs to move his little body around.

Sabra - posted on 12/17/2010




The reason for structured meal time being better is because family today are so busy that a lot of the time the only family time they get is a dinner. I think as long as you are spending family time some other way then you should be fine. If its what will make him eat I say go for it. Continue to model sitting at the table and eating and eventually he will want to join you. Later on give it another shot.

Louise - posted on 12/17/2010




My daughter was the same at this age. In the end I was just glad that she was eatting something. Now she is two she eats alot better at the table than she used to. I always include her at the table when the rest of the family eat and she sits to the table and eats a bit of fruit or whatever. Don't worry to much about it when he is older he will sit with you. One thing I used to do with my daughter is give her a small toy that would make sitting in her high chair more fun. It also gave me the opportunity to spoon some food into her mouth without her realising it. If you eat at a table then your son will wont to copy so bare this in mind!

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