Sleep Routines.... HELP!

Crystal - posted on 12/15/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am a single mom. I recently began teaching my daughter to soothe herself to sleep at nap and bedtime. I have been very consistent in doing the whole "supernanny" thing and even spanking her when she deliberately ignores me. Nothing works and its been 3 weeks now. Any suggestions or comments on what if anything I may be doing wrong? Any thoughts on something else to try? I am at wits end here and so ready to just give up. Thanks for your help!


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Angela - posted on 12/17/2010




We have a pretty set routine with our 2 year-old, though it's been interrupted with a newborn in the house. She has a bath, then story time and bedtime. We found out early (around 18 months) that she's not necessarily tired at 7:30 at night, but we're "done" with her. We let her have a couple of books to look at in bed. We tuck her in, give her her books and hugs and kisses, and leave the room. She'll read for 15 or 20 minutes and then she's out for the night. It did take a while to get her to be so laid back about going to bed, but we just stayed consistent with the routine and insistent about the fact that she stay in bed.

Amy - posted on 12/16/2010




let me tell you this. At that age, my daughter would welcome a spanking - because that meant mom was coming back in - for whatever reason. good or bad. She was staying up later and later and having even more tantrums. even a spanking was keeping her up past bedtime, which was what she wanted. What all exactly are you doing at bedtime? it should be consistent - don't try to change up what you do, and don't make going to bed a punishment. sleep should be a nice ending to the day. we decided that we just put her in bed after bath and book and put her in bed. if she got out of bed and stayed at the top of the stairs, we didn't go up, just told her to get back in bed and we'd check on her after we......dishes, laundry, whatever. When she came down or got out of bed we very quickly, calmly put her in bed and SWIFTLY left. We didn't stay and argue, we didn't spank her -it just riled her up and made her over cranky and tired. just quick in, quick out. it'll take a couple weeks i'm sure. she's not getting molars or anything is she? some get them late. also make sure NO TV past noon. it overstimulates the mind, but bodies aren't tired because they haven't been "doing". it helped my kids sleep AND cut their gripes with each other. Good luck, hon. let us know how it goes!

September - posted on 12/16/2010




So are you saying that you spank her when she does not want to go to sleep? What time does she go down for a nap and what time does she go do for the night? Maybe the times need to be adjusted a bit. I've also been using a super nanny sleeping method with our 2 year old recently due to changes with his sleep patterns with success. After I give our son a bath, read a bed time story and tuck him into bed, I sit with my back to him, without talking to him until he falls asleep. He is usually asleep within ten minutes or so. I think that consistency is very important as well as approaching nap and bed time is a very loving and nurturing kind of way. Good luck!

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