sleep training

Claire - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 18 month old daughter is used to going to sleep at 11pm - midnight. And only falls asleep if in someones arms (usually mine).

I am trying the no nonsense sleep guide. I'm being realistic and bathing her at 8pm, p'j's on in the bedroom, milk in bed. But then it goes all wrong.

I give her one kiss and tuck her up, say goodnight then close the door like the 'experts' say.

She screams the house down and gets out of bed so I return and put her back to bed. This continues for a good few hours and my partner doesn't seem to listen to what I'm saying so he ends up undoing any hard work that I have done in the 2-3 hours.

Help people !!!

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Colleen - posted on 02/20/2009

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Sorry, I can't help much as I am going through the same thing. My husband also cannot handle the crying and insists I pickup up my son thus undoing all my hard work. I would love to hear any suggestions that may come in.

Kris - posted on 02/20/2009

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I'm sorry.  We've having problems too.  But my DD would not only scream, but within 20 minutes throw up. She gets so upset when she throws up.  So, we still rock her to sleep and put her down.  If only she'd then sleep through the night...we're up from 5-10 times during the night.  And despite being absolutely exhausted, she wakes up around 4am and refuses to go back to sleep no matter what we try.



We're seeing a sleep specialist.  The doctor is stumped...we've done everything she suggests with no luck.



Good luck!

Claire - posted on 02/20/2009

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Thanks for the advice ladies.  I think it's just a case of perservering. I don't want to give in to her (she gets away with too much as it is! ). It's just sooo much hard work and really stressful.



Last night she laid in her bed instead of screaming but as soon as I walked away or moved she sat bolt upright and started to chat and giggle. It's really frustrating because my hubby stormed up the stairs making loads of noise and shouting "it's not working". This was after my  2 hour shift. Any advice on putting dads in their place?



Will keep you all updated on how it's going. thanks all xx

Frances - posted on 02/20/2009

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I understand how you feel, my 22 month old daughter goes to bed at around the same time. Her crib is in my room so she sees me and refuses to go to sleep unless i put her in bed with me and her Father. I really don't want her to get used to sleeping with us, but it's either put her in bed with us or listen to her cry all night

Donielle - posted on 02/19/2009

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Claire...I don't know how much help I'll be b/c I still rock my 2 year old to sleep and then put him in his bed. He then makes his way into my bed around 3 am! Both my boys also go to sleep late...I'm a night owl and definitely not a morning person! Try letting your husband do the WHOLE night routine and see how he likes it! He'll understand after a couple hours of her sreaming. I don't have it in me to let my son cry it out but I do bring him back to his room and console him until he falls asleep. U are a brave a wonderful mom.....she'll get it soon once hubby is on board with your plan. Hope I helped and good luck!

Jade - posted on 02/19/2009

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My youngest was exactly the same, and I too was told by the experts!!! to close the door and walk away... alow them to scream etc. I overcame bed time and sleep issues with alot of perserverence. I would put my boy in bed with a drink bottle and started by sitting with my back to the bed in the doorway, just sitting, not responding to questions other then to say " it's bed time" at first it took hours but before long when he realise there was no stimulus and it was simply bed time it became very quick. when I got down to 1/2 hour I began standing just outside the doorway, still within sight of my boy but same thing " it's bed time" quite quickly after this it was into bed a pause in the doorway "it's bed time" and walk away leaving the door open. I have not had any problems since. As for your partner it does take routine so if you are happy to do the hard yards, simply do it.. It does work ... Stay strong! x

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