So, at what age do children stop fighting bed time?


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Brandi - posted on 09/24/2009




do you have a bedtime routine??? My kids have NEVER fought bedtime. We have a bath brush teeth read story and bed. no nonsense. This has been a Godsend for our house our kids are asleep by 8:15 with no fussing. most nights they start heading to bed before bedtime. they know it's coming.

Paula - posted on 09/24/2009




my son stopped fighting bed time at two years old as i found a channel on the t.v that finishes at seven and goes to a blank screen. now when the blank screen appears my son says bed time and runs of to bed and stays there all night.

Darci - posted on 09/23/2009




My kids seldom fight bedtime. I wrote most of this note on another post about "Temper Tantrums"... around bedtime. But, I think it is relevant for this question too. I have 3 children under the age of 4, and we seldom fight bedtime. Typically, all three of them take a nap everyday. Sleep breeds sleep. This is our sleeping pattern for a typical day... and my kids are quite easy to put to bed.

My 2-year old decided he didn't want to stay in his bed at naptime. He does GREAT at bedtime, but naptime has been a challenge since our new baby arrived in May. So, I have decided that I would lay with him (hold him down if necessary) until he is sleeping. I always tell him, "If you can't stay in your bed by yourself, then I will 'help' you." And, I "help" him almost everyday, but he also naps everyday. Hopefully, one of these days, he will stay in his bed without my assistance.

I also have a 3-year old daughter and a 4-month old daughter. I get the 4-month old sleeping first. The 3-year old reads books in the living room while I get the boy down. Then, after I read a couple books to the 3-year old, she joins him for a nap in their room (the 2 oldest share a room). I think my 2-year old loves the fact that I lay down with him at naptime because it some of the only "alone time with mommy" that he gets some days. So, it's okay if I lay with him for a while yet.

One thing that has worked to help keep the kids in their beds at bedtime is "talking" for about 2-3 minutes with each of them as part of our bedtime routine. We usually talk about some of the exciting things from their day and some exciting things that we have to look forward to the next day. I also try to NEVER rush the bedtime routine; when I rush the routine, the kids are a little bit harder to get to bed. We take take baths some nights, put on pajamas, vitamins, brush teeth, read books (usually 3 books), say prayers, sing song sometimes, (this is where the one-on-one time takes place) "talk", kiss, hug, drink, and say, "Good Night, I love you ____, see you in the morning when the sun comes up." Making bedtime a positive time with lots of "fun" and loving things has helped. Our bedtime routine can sometimes last 30-45 minutes (baths add about 20-25 minutes)... so we start early. I don't tell them it's time to go to bed, I just start the routine... getting pajamas on and go from there. If you have questions or want more details feel free to send me a message.

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Do they ever? I remember fighting w/my parents until I was in my teens, by that point they were divorced & didn't care so long as we were quiet?

DeeDee - posted on 09/22/2009




My son just turned 5 and now has NO nap in kindergarden!!! Just tonight he says " Mommy CAN I go to bed?".. YES!!!!! so excited!!! FINALLY.

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