So does anyone else have a 4 year old that.......

Lorie - posted on 03/18/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Does anyone else have a 4 year old that ALWAYS says their right and your wrong ( even if they are wrong )??

What about that you have to say EVERYTHING more then once??

Its so frustrating, I just look at him and want to say are you kidding. Even if it benefits him he still doesn't do it. OH MY GOD.

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Leila - posted on 03/19/2010

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That's the definition of toddler at my house. If I say black, he says white. I just tell him what's true, but I don't insist on him agreeing. I also just say things once when possible, and if he is not responding I say I need you to stop and look at my face or I get close and take each wrist as he turns to focus on what I'm saying. Then I say it one time clearly and firmly. I'm not going to tell you that it works all the time, but it helps.

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Shannon - posted on 03/21/2010

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Have you had his hearing checked? Tried reverse phsychology just to make him think he is right or his idea? He is young and should grow out of this stuff, be patient if none of this works. Ialso agree w/Kate Belbeck

Leila - posted on 03/19/2010

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Yea! I'm so glad. It's the little strategies that help us get through the day.

Lorie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Well thanks everyone,As Iam reading your post Leila I saw a great time to use it. It worked perfect. So thanks for that.

Theresa - posted on 03/19/2010

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I used to have a 4 year old like that, in fact two of them. The cure is they turn five, then six, then....Now I have a 14 year old and an 11 year old like that. :) i'm not sure they ever grow out of thinking they're right and you know nothing. The only difference is that as a teen sometimes they are actually right. Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 03/19/2010

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He's just testing you and going through a stage. When my four year old went through it I at first just let it slide. Then it got annoying and I decided to nip it in the bud. I just told him that I am the parent not him and then I asked him how does 'he' like it when he contradicts me, does he feel good about it, etc. Basically, I laid out a big guilt trip for him and told him I'm the boss not him. I know kind of harsh and I had to do this a few times, but he stopped. Now he thinks I'm the smartest person in the whole world. Go figure.

Jackie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Lorie, I have now a five year old that does that. He should grow out of it. He could be testing you.. If the problem gets worst and starts to conflict with his schooling you might want to get him evaluated.

Kate - posted on 03/18/2010

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haha, I have a 2 year old that tells me I'm wrong all the time....I think they are just trying to assert their independence....and I hear you, it's really frustrating sometimes....hang in there!!

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