Son saying naughty words :/

Karla - posted on 04/13/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Ok well we are a military family and spend a lot of time surrounded by people cursing everywhere we go. My 2yr old son picked up the "sh" word and now he says it for everything. When he loses at a video game, when he drops something and when something flat out doesn't go his way. I've tried telling him that word is a bad word and not to say it but then he just loks at me and says it like 5 times in a row. i tried ignoring it but it dosn't stop. and i've tried repeating him. Say he drops something and he say oh sh**, i repeat him by i say like a man or oh shoot, but that doesn''t seem to work either. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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Mabel - posted on 04/13/2011

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sounds to me he is getting attention when he says it so he will continue.My son has picked up a few in the past couple of months and after we laugh about it we just act like it is not a big deal and he will eventually stop saying it.

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since it seems you have no control over what he hears, I would stop giving him any reaction when he uses the words...because it is this reaction that he delights in, he has no idea that the word is bad. Usually these words feel quite 'good' to the child, they're easily said for instance. To react and make a fuss further reinforces this attention seeking behaviour. Give him another suitable word to say instead, and I'm sure when he gets no reaction, neither shock or laughter, he will find there is no use saying them. God bless.

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Theresa - posted on 04/14/2011

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Let him know that's not a nice word, Mommy doesn't say it, Daddy doesn't say it (only works if you DON'T say it) and you don't want hi saying it. Let him know that there will be a consequence when he says it. Then follow through. For instance if he says it while playing a video game, then he's done playing games for the rest of the morning/afternoon/evening or whole day. Or you could use timeouts when he says it.

Louise - posted on 04/14/2011

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Just ignore him give him no eye contact infact walk away from him. He will come to you and say the word again as he knows it will get a reaction out of you. When he says the word again get down to his eye level and tell him that he has made mummy very sad because that is a naughty word, please don't make mummy sad anymore. Then get up and walk away looking glum. He will come out with the word again at some point and just say oh dear that bad word again mummy is really sad and walk away from him. Most children do not like to see there mums upset so this should work over a period of a few days. As he gets older it is easier to tell them that adults say bad words and that they should not repeat them. To be honest I think that the men that are around your kids should have some respect and not swear I personnally would have a go at them because that is not on.

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since it seems you have no control over what he hears, I would stop giving him any reaction when he uses the words...because it is this reaction that he delights in, he has no idea that the word is bad. Usually these words feel quite 'good' to the child, they're easily said for instance. To react and make a fuss further reinforces this attention seeking behaviour. Give him another suitable word to say instead, and I'm sure when he gets no reaction, neither shock or laughter, he will find there is no use saying them. God bless.

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