Standing in crib crying at night

Jung - posted on 05/06/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son sleeps through the night 90% of the time; however, he goes through stages occasionally and will wake crying. Lately, he's been waking up between 2:00-5:00 and will stand in his crib crying. The first two nights he did this I laid down with him until he fell asleep and then I would put him back in the crib; but I don't want this to become a habit so last night I let him cry for about 5 minutes and then I went in to lay him back down and at this point he would try to get up again. So, I held him down (not forcefully but enough so he would not get up) and eventually he just laid there wimpering. Once I left the room he got back up and cried for another 5 minutes before he sat down and then laid down and eventually went back to sleep. My question is, am I doing the right thing? What would Dr. Ferber do? All I want to do is cuddle with him but I know that's not the right thing. He is 13 months old.

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Candace - posted on 05/06/2011

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My son is 19 months old and we go through phases like this too. In fact, I bet the last one was when he was 13 or 14 months old and we are in one right now. For our son, it usually has something to do with his teeth. It will last for a few weeks, then a tooth will show up, and it will go back to normal. My son just popped out a lower eye tooth yesterday. I can usually lay him down awake and he'll jibber jabber to himself for a bit and then fall asleep. I always got up with him, gave him a cuddle to help him fall asleep, and laid him back down after he was sleeping. He is usually so tired, it only takes a few minutes. I think when kids who are pretty good about sleeping through the night behave this way, then something is wrong and I also think it's okay to adress it. Good luck!

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Mechelle - posted on 05/07/2011

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My daughter did the same thing at that age. I would bring her to my bed and let her fall back to sleep because I felt bad for her. This became an every night thing because she knew how to get me to bring her over into my bed. It got to the point where I needed my space and privacy. At first, she refused to go back to sleep in her crib. I told her ok, you want to be awake then you will get up. It was very tiring for me, but it got the point through to her. I only had to do this for a few days. Then, when she would get up and cry at night I would lay her back down in her crib and tuck her in and she would go right to sleep.

Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2011

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I should have made it clear the first time: In the middle of the night, if your child is neither in need of a feeding, thirsty, in need of a daiper change, too cold, too hot (basically uncomfortable, which can be remedied), or in pain, then your child is not in need of anything but sleep. It is not cruel to teach your child that night time is for sleeping and that they need to sleep in their own bed, by themselves.

Just as an after thought, though....CIO does work when you know nothing is wrong other than they have made waking up at a certain time a routine, but whether a mom choses to use it is their own personal choice. And CIO is different than having a child lay there....

Lise - posted on 05/06/2011

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I'd cuddle him... But then, I'm not a CIO mom. Toddlers are going through so much growth, I'd hate to make my child lay there if she needed something

Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2011

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Well, if it is his teeth, then you might just want to try to give him a teething tablet or something. Does it SOUND like a pain cry? If it's not teething, maybe he is having night mares? I would say maybe when you go to him, lay him back down, gently rub his chest while telling him that it's OK, mommy's right here. You're OK. And if he tries to get back up, keep laying him down back down and not saying a word. It's an idea. You can see if that makes a difference....

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